To buy DSD's mum a gift for her baby shower?

[ChevalierTialys]

DP is against the idea but I don't see why not. Would this be weird?

I get on with her, we have inside jokes and never argue. We don't spend time together in person but do message fairly regularly and I do all handovers. DP doesn't have any direct contact with her as they cannot stand each other and every conversation turns into an argument. He does talk to & text her DP though (DSD's stepdad) and they never have any issues.

I'm not invited to the baby shower, didnt expect to be, but I think it would be a nice gesture to get her something. I probably wouldn't do it behind DP's back, if I was really adamant I wanted to he wouldn't stop me, he just doesn't like the idea and thinks it would be strange. Would be nice for DSD as well, she will be at the baby shower of course so will be able to pass it on. DSD is 11 so not oblivious to how things are among her parents.

Ah just rtft and see someone else thought the same!

It is very seldom you see a kindhearted, generous person like you. Buy the gift, it will show how genuinely sweet you are.

Just buy her something and DSD can say it’s from her.

Can DSD remember what some of her favourite books were? Buy a new version of one of them if not still floating around and a note saying she hopes baby loves it as much as she did. We had to buy a second copy of You Choose it was so well loved.

Op, yes it’s a lovely thought and not weird.
The older I get the more I realise that it’s nice to be nice!
If you can do a nice thing then why not!

@ChevalierTialys I think its a lovely idea and would definitely buy something. I would label it from your DSD and im sure her mum will know who bought it :)

Baby showers are really vulgar.

How about a “sisters” photo frame? Then she can put a picture of the three girls together in after the birth.

Creambun2 Don't have one then

I know, it' so vulgar having a party and celebrating with your friends on one of the biggest events in their lives! never been invited to one have you?

Cream has already been deleted on another thread in active so guess she's having an off day.

wishing Love the frame idea, think I'll save that for when the baby comes!

cream it's a good thing it's not for you then.

I think it's a lovely idea, but as much as you get on, it might be awkward for her and dsd
When dsd hands her a present from You, in front of her friends and family.

I think helping dsd choose something is a great idea, then something from you as a family when LO arrives

I think it's fine taking dsd to buy a gift for her mum. It's a nice gesture. I like those towel thingys that attach around your neck. Get it with gift receipt

That's true @Foodylicious, people there might think it strange and I wouldn't want to embarrass her. If it's from DSD though, that shouldn't be a problem?

@TestingTestingWonTooFree and @ChevalierTialys careful with the Child's Farm, despite what they claim the sodium cocosulfinate in it can aggravate sensitive skin

We bought DSDs new baby sibling a present when they were born. I thought it was a nice thing to do and showed DSD that we’re all friendly and happy for each other

How much time have you got? If it were me I would get some nice muslins and help dsd embroider some simple flowers or pattern.

I gave a gift to my ex's bee baby when he was born. As did they when I had my ds.
I would wait until the little one is here and get a little outfit or something then.
It's a nice idea considering you are both civil