To have massive FOMO

[Muse84]

I never use acronyms but fomo just about sums it up. On days like this when everyone is staying out, enjoying the sun, drinking, socialising... And I'm home early to put my beautiful 6 mo old to bed. I feel like I'm slipping away from child free friends and the rest of the world in general. I know it's temporary and I'm so lucky, I wouldn't have it any other way.... But sometimes the nostalgia for my old life is almost painful. Feeling a little sad

Yep I hear you. Sucks sometimes doesn't it!

I don't know what that stands for! But it'll
Be fine, in about three years you'll get your life back. Unless you have another 😳

At 6 months they are pretty portable, any chance you could put him in the buggy and join them?

Doess your child not sleep well out and about? My DD has always come out for evenings out with us, nothing wild or extravgent of course. Dinner with friends or family, an evening in a family friendly pub garden or even an evenings stroll along the beach front. Obviously it may not be the same as what you did before and there may need to be a change of expectations, but having a young baby doesn't have to mean the whole world slipping away from you

apple it's Fear Of Missing Out
(apparently worse if you use social media a lot)

I hear you, I get it when I walk past all the pubs and their al fresco drinkers on my way home from work to do the nursery run (especially at the moment as I am pg)

My LO is 3 months old and she just comes with us and sleeps in the pushchair. Taken her to pub last time whether was nice and out to dinner with family a fee days ago.

Won't stay super late, but if she is happy and awake/asleep we just play it by ear

You're right! It's those bloody all fresco drinkers, flaunting their freedom, or people walking along quickly with a bottle of wine in their hands, off to a boozy BBQ (in my mind)

We were out all day to be fair so it was time to get him home. But i can't drink much anyway as BFing. And I loved drinking (socially).

Just having a light hearted moan

You can drink while breastfeeding

I hear you too. Also BFing right now sonot even able to join in on sociable daytime drinking as I experienced today. Hey ho.

I get that when we drive past people sitting out in pub beer gardens on sunny Sunday afternoons and we're off to take our dc (5&7) out for a walk or cycle or just to the supermarket or whatever. It kind of feels like we can't just sit & relax and enjoy the day doing nothing because, if we tried that, our dc would get bored and whiny and we'd have to leave early.

As they're getting older though and able to play in the garden or on the playground equipment without needing constant supervision, we are able to spend longer at the pub (not getting drunk, obvs) or sit for longer in the garden with a book and a brew and not have to keep entertaining them or sorting out arguments/changing bums/getting food or drinks etc. We can also spend longer at family barbecues and keep them up longer than usual knowing they'll be able to come with the tiredness a bit better the following day.

What I'm trying to say is that it feels like you're mussing out and that you're kind of like a slave to the routine but this doesn't last forever and soon enough your dc will be older and you'll be a little more 'free'.

Same! But I have got used to it after being pg and bf for over 3 years now 😫
We do a few evening pub trips when it's really lovely but with a 2 year old as well as a new
Born the tired toddler routine is a bastard!

If you have Netflix watch 'the let down' its a great comedy about early motherhood. Will give you a giggle

Another one here who gets it! Out with a friend this afternoon and we had a glass of wine before heading home. Could have stayed out for at least another few hours, but needed to get home, relieve DH for his social activity, make dinner for DC and get them into bed. They're 1 and 3. I know in a few years it'll be a different story but today I had total FOMO!