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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To be mildly insulted at this comment from MIL?

38 replies

LisaSimpsonsbff · 05/05/2018 18:27

DH has a great relationship with his parents, and I also get on really well with them. They're lovely people who have been very generous to us in lots of ways. We live 40 minutes from them, and see them every two to three weeks, depending (they go on a lot of holidays). DH is an only child and I'm seven months pregnant with our first child. We saw them today and MIL started chatting to me about them thinking about moving into a more suitable home as they get older. I asked whether they'd want to stay in the same small town as currently. She said 'Well, we'd always said we'd move to [literally the other end of England] but it's different now because...' I nod, expecting comment about prospective grandchild 'we have our walking club. I'd be sad to move away from that. We don't have any other ties keeping us in the area, but we really want to stay within easy reach of that'. Now, I'm pleased they have their own lives - we wouldn't want to be the centre of their universe - but AIBU to be a bit insulted by this?! No ties at all?!

In case not clear - am more amused than genuinely insulted, and definitely not considering doing anything to wreck our excellent relationship over one weird comment - but it was a really weird comment, right?!

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WhalesOfYore · 05/05/2018 19:53

Top-level trolling from MIL there! Grin

SavageBeauty73 · 05/05/2018 20:04

I would have laughed 😂

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 05/05/2018 20:04

Yes, they do seem excited about the baby - and have been very generous about gifts (bought the cot)

That's good OP, I wouldn't worry too much now in your shoes and I bet once the baby is born MIL will be even more involved ( hopefully that's a good thing? Grin )

Gemini69 · 05/05/2018 20:15

hahahaaaaaa her WALKING club hahahaaa she's hilarious OP Flowers

RainbowGlitterFairy · 05/05/2018 20:44

Are you sure she didn't see your nod and was joking about her reasons?

Charolais · 05/05/2018 20:45

DH has a great relationship with his parents, and I also get on really well with them. They're lovely people who have been very generous to us in lots of ways But you managed to find a chink in the armor. Good luck when you are a MIL.

LisaSimpsonsbff · 05/05/2018 20:47

Wow, that was so unnecessarily nasty, charolais. I've been really clear that I value our excellent relationship and later in the thread I explained that I'm worried about her not feeling involved enough. I think accusing me of trying to have a go at her says a lot more about you than me.

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iamyourequal · 05/05/2018 20:54

Gosh that was pretty bitter @Charolais.

I’m guessing nobody had put you up for MIL of the year lately.

IronMansIronButt · 05/05/2018 20:56

Of course there are exceptions, but I think most people would agree with me. The huge gulf between a teenager and his/her grandparents can be particularly painful to observe

I think they won't! What a weird thing to say. What gulf?

IronMansIronButt · 05/05/2018 20:57

hahahaaaaaa her WALKING club hahahaaa she's hilarious OP flowers

yes, older people having hobbies they enjoy, how riotous Hmm

SpectacularAardvark · 05/05/2018 20:57

@HildaZelda- Me too!! I fantasise about moving myself just to get away from the witch!

Blondephantom · 05/05/2018 21:05

Maybe she was going to say the baby but thought it may tread on your toes so grasped the first thing she could think of. It does sound like you have a lovely relationship:

In my experience, grandparents can have a wonderful relationship with their grandchildren at any age. If both sides put the effort in then a relationship will flourish.

Gemini69 · 05/05/2018 21:10

yes, older people having hobbies they enjoy, how riotous

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