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Mamma2019 · 05/05/2018 17:04

Dear friends, I'm in need of advice please...

Me and DH have been ttc for almost 4 years now and we have a great Dr. She has been a huge source of strength, support and sanity throughout our struggles.

Now, just a couple of days ago, my sister-in- law called me and asked for help. She has two kids and had an abortion last year, post which she has had some complications. She has already got some tests done and everything looks normal. Someone told her about our wonderful Dr and she wants a reference from us.

I spoke with my Dr about it and she's happy to help but wants to see the patient first. My DH is not very thrilled because he doesn't want to put our Dr in an awkward spot. Given the fact that my Dr has always given us concessions in her fees, I guess he has a point. Now, if I don't help out my sil, I look the uncaring and indifferent person and if I help her, my DH will not be too pleased.

I'm caught between the both of them and feel awkward. Please help Confused

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Dljlr · 05/05/2018 17:08

Why does she need a reference from anyone to see a doctor; what's it got to do with your partner if the doc is happy to see this woman; and why would you feel in any way awkward? I can't see the issue Confused It's none of your sils business what you pay, and none of yours what she does.

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Mamma2019 · 07/05/2018 18:31

My DH has issues with his sister. Since my Dr gives us concessions, my sil is hoping for some concessions in doctor's fees by getting a reference from us. A part of me just wants to chuck this all and forget about it.

And just yesterday we had a big fight about it. Sil is a pretty decent person and I want to help her if possible and to whatever extent possible. DH wants none of it. If I choose to not get involved, I look like a b in front of the family. And if I do, my DH is unhappy. That's the issue

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Peterrabbitscarrots · 07/05/2018 18:47

Where do you live? I’ve never heard of this. Has the Dr asked for a reference?

Idontdowindows · 07/05/2018 19:20

I'm confused. Concessions? Are you paying for this treatment and you're getting it cheaper or something?

Is your SIL not your husband's sister, but your brother's wife?

Allthewaves · 07/05/2018 19:28

I don't see the huge deal. You spoken to the doctor, she's happy to see sil, what mor does it have to do with you. Let sil make the appointment and deal with everything else herself

PurpleDaisies · 07/05/2018 19:31

Reference for what? This isn’t a thing in the uk. Where are you?

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