To hate having to dance?

[eggsinonebasket]

I’m out this weekend with a group of girls, we’ll end up in a club or bar where they’ll desperate to dance, and I’ll be stood there awkwardly trying to join in while wishing the ground would open up and swallow me. It just doesn’t come naturally to me at all. I loathe it, I’d rather just sit and drink and people watch, maybe a little wiggle of the mood takes me but none of this dancecloor business. I can’t really get out of it without looking like a bore, but I feel I am useless at it and that everyone is looking at me, and that secretly my friends will be thinking I’m an awkward embarrassment. I can’t be alone in thinking this? How can I survive and still have a good time?

Can't you organise some different things that you and your friends can go to?

I also hate dancing publicly but sometimes it creates more of a fuss to refuse than just to go along with it, so I'm left with a fake grin, dancing and basically not enjoying myself, eg weddings.

You don't have to do anything you don't want to do from peer pressure. That kind of night would have been idea of total hell, at any age. Why not give this night a miss and suggest doing something you want to do another time? Or, if you do actually want to go, just say you hate dancing? Unless you are sitting with a face like a slapped arse making people feel bad for not babysitting you, I can't see why anyone would object...?

I've always hated dancing. I also hate people who seem to think you're a bore if you don't dance, or try to insist you get up and dance. Fuck right off. Not danced for years and years and fully intend never to again

If the night will end in people dancing and you don't enjoy it, why not go and then leave when it turns into dancing?

I'm with you OP, I rarely enjoy dancing, unless hammered, which I don't get any more. So if I were out with a group I'd just enjoy their company and catching up, then go home once everyone got to the 'nothing but dancing' part of the night!

Could you talk to one or two of them beforehand and explain how you feel? Hopefully they'll understand OP?

I’m the same OP, just cannot get into dancing (unless very drunk and it’s been a while since I was that pissed). Managed to get into it a handful of times at uni but largely avoid at all costs! I wish I could as everyone seems to have a whale of a time on the dance floor but it makes me so self conscious. had to constantly move round the room chatting to guests at latter part of my wedding to avoid the inevitable dancing. And agree about the rage when people repeatedly try to force you onto the dance floor ... just no!!

It’s for my best friends 30th and this is her choice of celebration otherwise I would definitely opt out or make different arrangements. I’ll hopefully be ok when I’ve had a few drinks to relax me!

I'm a dance teacher and I hate dancing at clubs / parties, that sort of thing! For me, it's like a bus man's holiday - I dance over 30 hrs a week already at work, why would I want to spend several hours jigging up and down on a crowded dance floor as well? Also, I hate it when people say ' show us some moves' - I always feel like everyone is watching to see what I do because I'm a dance teacher, almost like they are expecting me to throw out something spectacular. And then if I did, I would feel a complete twit and a show off! Give me the wide open space of a dance studio, and I will happily improvise doing my favourite kinds of dance but I actively avoid parties or any kind of social event with a dance floor whenever possible!

Can’t you just be the table/seat keeper?

As in, just say... I’m not dancing, I’m going to sit and watch and I’ll keep your drinks here... that way your friends can come backwards and forwards from where you are.

Unless there’s only a couple of people going there’ll always be someone glad of a seat and a chat in between dancing.

Head to the dance floor with a big grin; maybe throw in some excited whooping.
Choose a spot for your group to dance in.
Do a happy twirl and throw your arms enthusiastically in the air.
Lean over to your nearest friend and shout “I’m just going to grab some water!”
Find a seat at the bar and stay there. Ideally you will be engaged in chat with a handsome stranger by the time any of your friends spot you.

Ohh im so glad im not the only one...i loathe dancing...i look really stupid and freeze up and cant move....i also watch others dancing and cringe for them.
I dread weddings...there is always a dance floor dragger who wont take no for an answer.

Didn't you twist your ankle? - innocent -

Ahhh this is totally me! Always end up drinking instead. I just don't have the dancing gene. I hate it when people get annoyed and grumble that no body will be watching me, and imply I somehow am up myself and worried about what everyone thinks of me. Thats not the point, I don't really enjoy it whether people are watching me or not. And why do they care if I'm dancing or not anyway? Even my own family have called me a killjoy at wedding's etc as I didn't want to dance. I'm happy to watch and chat to people at the bar instead but apparently that's 'antisocial'. Sorry rant over!

I hate it when people try to drag you up on the dance floor too

Yep I feel exactly the same.

Professional drinks and bag watcher here. I hate dancing, I'm tall and long, get in the way and trip over my own feet. Just keep repeating 'I'll be there in a minute'.

I HATE dancing. it's painfully awkward even if I'm very very drunk. I can't dance. And people agree with me.