AIBU to ask which series your dh hates for no reasons

[ConfusedWife1234]

Mine hates downton Abbey and Sherlock. Hates it with passion. Nobody knows why.

Sometimes men are hard to understand.

Sometimes men are hard to understand

“men” are hard to understand because you don’t share the same taste in tv?

There are several programmes my DH loves that I hate so much I have to leave the room. Genuinely cannot bear to watch or listen to them.

I just take myself off somewhere else with a book.

There are several other things which I don’t like much but will sit next to him reading while he watches.

But The Inbetweeners, Man Down, and almost anything with Steve Coogan drive me to distraction.

Just watch your programmes alone I don’t understand the issue.

NB: I haven’t watched all of Downton. Many people haven’t.

No, they are hate to understand because they (or rather: mine) do not verbalize their reasons.

Mine hates some series so much he actually leaves the room but cannot explain why.... and no, he is not trying to be mean... and he is also not stupid. He is in fact a very smart man, but for him it is difficult to talk about stuff like why he likes or dislikes something or how something makes him feel and because of this he often leaves me puzzled.

That just one man OP. Not men. Men vary. Like women.

I have yet to meet the woman who cannot explain how something makes her feel or why she likes or dislikes something and know several men like this. Who knows. Maybe coincidence.
Just my personal experience.

But why do you need him to verbalise it Confused?

So that you can argue that he’s wrong?

I hate the In Betweeners.

I don’t stand up and explain exactly why I hate it. I just say “if you are going to watch this I’ll go and read in the other room do you want a cuppa?”

Well you’ve also yet to meet a woman who hasn’t watched downton abbey apparently so I suspect you haven’t met many women.

I’m sure he could explain, but he doesn’t want to. And quite frankly why should he?

It’s a matter of personal taste, why does he need to defend that?

My DP won't watch anything I suggest because it's automatically crap apparently and it's infuriating.

I've watched all his favourite films and sat through hours of 1960's sitcoms.

I've actually thought of starting threads about this because it's so fucking annoying.

So no. YANBU.

Copper: No, so I can understand him... and actually I think it would be respectful towards me to explain his reasons.

To give an example: Dh has health issues so we often do what he wants, which often is watching TV... and that‘s okay for me... but when he gets up and leave and I am there watching TV alone it makes me feel very sad... because well, I already accepted that my life is not like that if other young women... but I think he must recognize I often miss out on thinks I like to do to give him company in watching TV and then he just gets up and leaves without saying a word... that feels bad.

Actually I do not want to talk about this all of the time. Already have written about his health before and I did not want to whine in this thread just wanted to talk about series but since you asked.

Most things that are drama based (e.g. Marcella, Dr Foster) but he likes documentaries about pretty much anything

On the other hand, I loathe most sitcoms, which he likes. Swings and roundabouts.

Ok so then you have to agree in advance what you will watch together.

I honestly don’t think it’s disrespectful. I’ll watch all sorts of things with DH but I wouldn’t even watch the Inbetweeners if you actually handed me cash. It makes my skin crawl and my head explode with rage.

The fact that I don’t like it and he does is just a difference of taste.

Getting up without a word is a little bit different to not explaining why he doesn’t like it. And that is rude.

Oh OP. :(

That is sad. Do you have children together?

Unfortunately it seems we often cannot agree on what to watch. I agree on everything he wants to watch but he often disagrees because he dislikes an actor (but cannot explain why) or he just watches it for about five minutes and then he dislikes it. I think it is really a bit unfair.

He also likes to watch things over and over again, for example pacific rim. I have watched this millions and millions of times because he wanted to watch it again and again.

Uterus, yes, we have three boys and a girl.

I can totally understand wanting to share a thing.

If you don't get out much together for whatever reason that coupley bond comes from some shared experiences whether it's a good box set or a potter in the garden.

It sounds silly and superficial maybe but you do need to connect somehow. Does he recognise any problem?

Just like Uterus my dh will reject anything I like. He makes an exception for Poldark despite insisting that I only apparently only like it for Aiden Turner . I think he secretly fancies Eleanor Thomlinson.

Uterus, well, you know, my husband gave me a good life, he earns very well, we live in a nice house, our children will never be wanting for anything. I do not have to work. He went to a good school and it was not clear to me until recently that they give a preferential admission to legacies.

I am very thankful he works so hard for us. He treats me with respect, he never raises his voice. If I want something I just need to tell him and he buys it... and when I tell him I was unhappy with some things he is offended and asks if I do not see how hard he works for me and the children. I think I cannot discuss this without offending him.

How about you? You said your dh is similiar.

@ConfusedWife1234

Re Call The Midwife: Yes! It’s brilliantly written and beautifully acted. Each character has a real purpose in the show.

Be prepared to sob and smile and fall a little bit in love with Chummy.

He hates Greys Anatomy. Calls it my ‘hospital shit’.

I hate Only Fools and Horses.

He also has reserves a special distaste for Gandalf the wizard. Not LOTR or The Hobbit in their entirety. Just Gandalf 😂

Captain: Thanks :) Think I will be watching it.

Gandalf, lol, that’s funny. Why does he hate him. My hubby really likes LoTR, but he hates movie Frodo. Not book Frodo, he likes him. He actually hates movie Frdo so much because he think they downsized book Frodo and in a way I even agree, they are completely different characters... and book Frodo is the much stronger ad more soldierly character... but just my (and my hubbys) personal opinion.

If you like period drama and well written, intelligent characters, you will love Call the Midwife OP.

He says he’s a shit wizard and a significant amount of fannying about and fighting with orcs could have been avoided if Gandalf had just done what any self respecting wizard should have done and magicked them up to Mordor.

He’s got a point.

Larry, I think that this was not possible because Saurons eye was watching them. Same reasons why the could not use the Eagles to get to Mordor. Sauron was at the highest of his power and his Eye was watching. That‘s the reason why they could use the Eagle only much later. Hubby explained to me, he reads the letters of Tolkien and in one he explained.

Explained it with Eagles I mean, hubby goldne when I asked him why they did not use the eagles to fly to Mordor.... but I am sure it is true for Gandalf too. I think He could no do anything because Sauron was just to strong.