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Fred999 · 04/05/2018 09:56

I currently work 3 days a week in a very secure job with a big organisation. It’s an hours commute each way, but we’re planning on moving to a more family-friendly area soon which is potentially going to make my commute even longer. My take home pay is about 900 a month, but I also have tax-free childcare so most of DC’s nursery fees have already come out of this. The job is fairly interesting, and in an industry that can be hard to get into, but I’m finding myself slightly disillusioned there, and when I look at the senior management I don’t aspire to be in their position in the future.

A job opportunity had just come up that has caught my eye. It’s a really interesting and fulfilling role that I think I could do really well in. It would be minimal commute and is something I am really passionate about. The problem is, it’s only 10 hours a week so I would be earning less than half of what I am now. I would save on childcare, petrol and parking, but it still doesn’t even out.

The (slightly more important) issues are: We have just put our house on the market and have our mortgage in principal, so changing jobs could affect all of this (although DH earns a lot more than I do, so I think the mortgage offer is based more on him than me), the job is also only a year’s maternity cover so I wouldn’t have a secure future there. The role is also on a self-employed basis so there would be no pension or maternity pay, and we’re planning to try for another baby this year so I’m taking away a lot of financial security.

Has anyone been in a similar position?! Do you chose quality of life over financial security? It’s not like I’m in a terrible position now - I still have a good work-life balance and a fairly interesting job, I can just really see myself in this other role and imagine that it could really add to our quality of life.


AIBU for considering applying?!

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whycantIthinkofadecentusername · 04/05/2018 10:16

I think that you’re not being unreasonable to consider it, but you do need to talk to your DH before doing anything. Ultimately you are not losing anything by applying. If you eat an interview and even an offer you are still in a position to turn it down if you feel it doesn’t suit your family.

whycantIthinkofadecentusername · 04/05/2018 10:17

*get not eat. Sorry.

LucyEvans26 · 04/05/2018 10:19

If you're in a financial position to do then I would!

Fred999 · 04/05/2018 11:42

Thanks both. DH is away until tomorrow morning so I can’t talk to him about it until then. You’re right that I can always apply and then turn it down. It feels like a massive risk, but quite an exciting one!

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abigailsnan · 04/05/2018 11:47

Go for it you will only be thinking "what if" in a couple of years time if you missed the opportunity. best of luck with your decision.

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