Aibu to not trust my doctor?

[Loveshinealight332]

I’m 32 nearly 33.
I’ve wanted a baby for years,me and my partner tried for 3 years to get pregnant and nothing.
We split last month.
I’ve been back and forwards to my doctors because I think I have endometriosis.
From day 8 of my cycle I get sore hips,feel sick,exhausted,bowel problems,painful sex,whilst on my period I get really bad pain and impossible to have a bowel movement.
She sent me for a ultrasound which was fine but that’s it,she won’t refer me to a gynaecologist because she says it’s not necessary and offered me contraceptive pills.
As me and my partner split due to the stresses of 3 years trying to conceive she won’t do any fertility investigation as I’m single now.
What if this is endo but the time I meet someone new it’s too late?
If I wait till we are in a position to have a baby and it is endo and I’m too old?
I’m nearly 33 now.
I don’t believe my doctor when she says it’s normal.
I have soreness and stinging etc etc
What would you do?
Push to see a gynaecologist?
I’ve been to my doctors 5 times over the years and she refused saying you’ve had an ultrasound which is clear.
That shows nothing to stop you getting pregnant.

An ultrasound won't diagnose endo. If your gp refuses to refer you, see someone else.

I’ve tried 3 different doctors.
One said try contraceptives
One said you’ve had a ultrasound no further investigation needed and the other offered me sertraline for depression.
Fighting a loosing battle

Ime you have the right to be referred for something that you feel needs further attention.Speak to your practice manager

Hello from a late diagnosed endo sufferer.

It is so difficult to get these issues dealt with.

I’d try another GP. If possible (and it’s a lot of money) could you afford a private consultation? The GP will likely be happy to refer if it’s private. The consultation will be ca £200 but you’d be seen quickly and they can refer you back for NHS treatment.

I was lucky that my employer has healthcare so I got all my care done privately. It is much quicker. When I told the GP I had private cover she told me she wished I’d said sooner!

No idea if that’s an option for you but if it is, it should be well worth it.

Go Private, you will get answers in a very short time

Push for a referral and if no joy see another dr at the practice , change GP surgery or see a gynae privately if you can afford it

Why do people always say go private? If it were an option OP would already have done that.

Yanbu, the NHS is being dismantled. People are being refused medical treatment.

''GPs offered cash to refer fewer people to hospital''
www.theguardian.com/society/2018/feb/28/gps-offered-cash-to-refer-fewer-people-to-hospital

14 years until I was diagnosed and even then only because surgeon saw it during d&c for mc. By which point I'd lost 3 babies.

This makes me SO angry. The ONLY way to confirm endo is surgically, it doesn't show on an Ultrasound and the NICE guidelines have recently been updated.

www.bmj.com/content/358/bmj.j3935

www.nice.org.uk/guidance/ng73/chapter/Recommendations#diagnosing-endometriosis

Late diagnosis is NOT acceptable. That you've lost a relationship as a result is appalling. Think you need a new surgery not just a different dr. Quite worrying they're not keeping up to date.

You shouldn't NEED to go private!

If I were you print off the links and go in and be assertive and insist on a referral for a lap. If they STILL say no change to another surgery and seriously consider an official complaint.

If this were happening to men THEY wouldn't get fobbed off!

I’ve been writing it down in a diary for the last few months,all my symptoms.
I get the worst symptoms during ovulation (feeling sick and temperature,fluey)

I’m so sad all the time.
I just want a child more than anything and I mean anything.
I’m convinced I have endo on my bowel and god knows where else.

This was in the news recently. It seems to be hard to get it diagnosed.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-43143339

But it SHOULDN'T be - the symptoms are very clear and diagnosis relatively simple to achieve.

It's disgusting women have to "fight" JUST to get diagnosed.

And the money argument actually doesn't bear up BECAUSE NOT treating it means more work days lost, more money spent on meds to treat SOME of the symptoms, and I'm pretty sure the cost of treating mc is more than the Lap costs!

If your GP hasn't followed NICE guidelines, go to PALS and make a complaint. Sorry you are going through this.

Actually, thinking back, when I first wanted investigation, I paid to see a consultant privately, then reverted to the nhs.

It took me turning up at my GP with no appointment, doubled over in pain and hysterically crying to get a referral. I turned up just before the surgery was due to close and as soon as the receptionist saw me she called through to the GP who saw me straight away. I couldn't even stand up straight let alone climb on the bed. It shouldn't have taken that, I'm not sure i know anyone that would want to see a gynae just for the sake of it