To not get him a wedding present

[foxpink]

My husband has a business that operates from where we live, it's in farming, 5 guys that work for us, one of the guys is getting married on Saturday, but he hasn't invited any of them to the wedding day or night, which is totally fine, however do I get him a card/present, he hasn't spoken to the boys about the wedding at all in the last few months, but did before it's a bit weird, it's not a small wedding, we think that he was planning on leaving but whatever he applied for he didn't get, so prob thought he wouldn't be here wedding time, my dh asked him if he was thinking about leaving and he said no, but we know he was as the someone else outside of work mentioned it. He can leave no problems, but I don't want to be rude in not getting him a card, and would I put anything in it? but he's being weird and obv doesn't want any of us involved, so should I just not bother ? But then will he get even more weird if we don't get him anything, the guys don't think we should do anything and aren't concerned in the slightest, but I'm not sure, it's only a small team, and it's where I live! He's has worked here for over 3 years.

That's not true. You're backtracking but it doesn't matter - job is done. All is well with the world.

That sounds good to me. It’s a nice gesture and even if he is awkward about it I’m sure he will appreciate it.

I would do a shared card and bottle of bubbly between all of you. I got cards and gifts from work colleagues, I worked with lots of people so couldn't invite everyone

That sounds just right Pink

He is probably acting weird because he hasn’t invited anyone and feels bad.
You as his employee should do the right thing, card and gift with best wishes is standard invitation or not.

I’d get him a card at the very least a nice bottle of champagne or something similar. It’s nice to be nice as my Nan would say.

Well done OP. That's a really nice present.

I've been at my (admittedly large) company for nine years and it's not standard practice for people to invite each other to their weddings but we'd always get people a card and gift nonetheless. If people are really good friends with a couple of people they might but it's by no means expected.

Sounds like he probably was going to invite you all in the beginning but then the usual budget & guest list drama set in so he couldn’t & now he’s embarrassed which is why he stopped talking about it.

My brother’s work colleagues got bumped off his guest list even though he really wanted them there because they had to make room for his FIL’s work colleagues who the bride & groom had never met.

at £50 tbh.
We got married in 1999. A married couple I was very good friends with (no children, very well paid jobs) put in £50 which was actually the most expensive gift we got really - apart from our parents.

My economics geek son says £50 in 1999 would be about £80 now.

shock at £50 tbh. My economics geek son says £50 in 1999 would be about £80 now.

Are you actually saying OP needs tp put in more money for the employee of her husband?? She also bought another gift, a champagne set. If he thinks it isn't enough then he can return it all

Sleeping no I think Pinga is saying the OP was very generous!

Miserablemouse - yes thats what I mean. £50 is masses. Especially for a wedding you arent even going to - even as a gift from an employer.

Btw - I hope you are not really a miserable mouse. :) Or own one!

It depends on your circumstances whether £50 is a lot of money or not. Sounds like you got it just right, OP.

Sorry Pinga I thought you meant OP should have put £80 in. I agree with you