Was this v rude?

[boywiththebrokensmile2]

Several ears ago, I was living in a house that the landlord wanted me to show tenants the spare room when a boy moved out. Anyway, 1 couple came and the girl was looking for a room.

She arrived with her bf and the three of us were in the room and I was giving them the lowdown of the house when the bf just wanders off and left me chatting to his gf. I didn't say anything and a few mins later the toilet flushed and he came out [leaving a putrid smell.] I was shocked and just pretended it did not happen before bidding them farewell and never saw them again as clearly she got accomm elsewhere.

But does any1 else here think that was extreme rude and inappropriate what he did? Like you ask to use the bathroom in somebody's house especially when you are there for a look at a room? I said nothing then but years later it irks me that I didn't. What would you have done?

Not be thinking about years later. Rude. Years later? Random.

Why are you thinking about this years later?

Someone used your toilet without asking several years ago. They used it for the purpose it was intended.

How can you even be bothered about this year's later?

You are really fucking weird.

Years later? Have you really spent the past years stewing over this? If you have then yabu. He should have at least asked and not gone pottering about in the house, not least to have a shit but I think it's time to get over it. In fact I'd probably have gotten over it the moment they left. If it's 'years' later then get a grip. But he shouldn't have done that, if it helps.

i just thought not to ask in a stranger's house was very rude, if i was his gf i would have being mortified.

Is the smell still lingering or something? Cuz seriously it's years ago! Who cares?

OP! I know you, you're the poo troll! :)

no, i forgot about it but a colleague told me a similar like story today over inappropriate behaviour today and said they were too shocked to say anything at the time and it cast my memory back to that. Got me thinking over how sometimes when the bizarre and unacceptable happens we[inexplicably] simply say nothing when we know we should.

He was an adult visitor in your home.

Yes, normal manners would dictate that he should have asked but it’s not like you would have said no is it? It’s hardly the crime of the century.

I can’t think why that would give you reason to do more than raise an eyebrow at the time.

If people need to go they need to go, it’s not ideal but would you rather he loudly announced what he needed to do?

It’s not normal to be thinking/caring about this years later.

Oh come on!

Someone using your loo is not “bizarre and inexplicable” and what exactly do you think you should have said?

But what would you have said?

I'd have said yes but it's the fact he did not ask and just walked off and used it- do people not see this as completely inappropriate?

It is rude and most of us wouldn't do it. It's just not a big deal though.

It’s not great manners but it’s hardly “completely inappropriate”.

Yea but alot of posters are missing the point, I am not thinking about it all these yrs, it is just that it sprang to mind this evening when a colleague told me a similar story and was froze in shock. Would you ppl have said anything??

If your colleague’s story was similar to yours I wouldn’t have been “frozen in shock” I’d have raised an eyebrow at his poor manners and thought no more about it.

it's the fact he did not ask and just walked off and used it- do people not see this as completely inappropriate?

A bit rude maybe, lacking in manners?

Now, if he had shit on your carpet, that would have been 'completely inappropriate'

Don't reply to this! I can guarantee it's the weirdo toilet troll

Boywiththebrokensmile

Go and see your GP for counselling