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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

Was I rude to the nurse?

21 replies

hiblueblue · 02/05/2018 21:55

So I’ve seen her about 7 times now (private if relevant) and she’s started calling me the incorrect name.... didn’t the first couple of times.

I do not like this woman and because of her not taking me seriously I’ve now got an infection.

So today I snapped after the second time she called me the wrong name and said actually my name is X not Y.

She looked slightly embarrassed. Should I have just ignored it?

OP posts:

Grumpbum · 02/05/2018 21:57

No, she shouldn’t be treating you unless she’s confirmed you are who you are. I.e you’re being called the right name

DearTeddyRobinson · 02/05/2018 21:58

No, that wasn't rude, you were just correcting her.
Sounds like you might need to find a different nurse though as she's clearly not on the ball.

12PurpleSnails · 02/05/2018 22:00

Strange you didn't correct her the first time to be honest.

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hiblueblue · 02/05/2018 22:02

The wrong name thing baffles me. I had a conversation with a woman today

oh hi is that Kelly?

Has 5 minutes conversation

great speaking, see you soon Kerry!

..., this happens to me all the time. How can people not realise they’re doing this?

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user1473878824 · 02/05/2018 22:02

Is this going to be another “she called me Mrs X when my actual name is Ms Y”?

user1473878824 · 02/05/2018 22:03

Cross posts there. It’s annoying but I think quite normal rather than “is this Kelly?” “Okay bye Rachel”

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hiblueblue · 02/05/2018 22:03

Strange you didn't correct her the first time to be honest.

Because I thought it was an oversight as she’d called me the correct name previously.

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PerfectlyDone · 02/05/2018 22:03

Well, if you said 'my name is X, not Y' YANBU, if you said 'my name is not fucking X', you were

Whether you saw her privately, under the NHS or whichever other way is totally irrelevant. And whether there is any causative effect between your infection and her getting your name wrong, I don't know.

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hiblueblue · 02/05/2018 22:10

And whether there is any causative effect between your infection and her getting your name wrong, I don't know.

I don’t think there is but just explaining why I loathe this woman.

Also the fact that today she put something on my skin to clean my wound and it stung like a motherfucker.

Fine if she needed to do that, but at least give me some warning beforehand.

OP posts:

Knittedfairies · 02/05/2018 22:21

She surely needs to get your name right for your records?

TheBigFatMermaid · 02/05/2018 22:22

Any nurse, NHS or private, should confirm your name before treating you or prescribing.

Pomegranatepompom · 02/05/2018 22:26

You loathe someone for getting your name wrong?

Yes you probably should request another nurse, probably mutually beneficial.

Willow2017 · 02/05/2018 22:45

In a medical situation getting someones name wrong is a big deal pomegranate. If she isnt sure who she us treating whats to say she is using the right treatment?

Plus op did say she missed symptoms and now op has a wound infection. None of this would inspire confidence for me.

LemonysSnicket · 02/05/2018 23:26

My doctor calls me by my middle name. It’s inverted my name on the system and I corrected her so many times but she carried on.
So, at the doctors I am Emily.

Pomegranatepompom · 03/05/2018 06:58

Is the name totally wrong? Or does she say Natalie rather than Natalia for example.
Obviously understand importance of checking patient is who they think it is, but it just seems from the post the OP would dislike this nurse whatever she did.

What symptoms were missed?

Slartybartfast · 03/05/2018 07:05

and she should hve warned you about the stinging.
not good to get your name wrong.
no you werent rude. i spose you could have been more cheerful but perhaps being unwell doesnt help your attitude.

FlyingElbows · 03/05/2018 07:06

I'm a Natalia (not actually but the same kind of thing). I am not now nor have I ever been a Natalie. Does my head in. It takes no effort to do someone tge courtesy of getting their name right. If you're a medical professional it's actually really important to make sure you've got the right patient!

HelenTheHunter · 03/05/2018 07:12

This is a bit of a silly question, surely??
Of course it wasn't rude to correct her if she got your name wrong. If you corrected her rudely then yes, you were rude.
It's not about what you did but the manner in which you did it. Which none of us saw so can't really comment. You used the word 'snapped' which suggests you were rude but who knows...
I suspect that you already know whether you were rude or not and that isn't really the point of your post.
I agree with a PP that you should probably ask to see someone else as clearly whatever this nurse does will annoy you so safer for both of you to go separate ways, if possible.

missyB1 · 03/05/2018 07:12

Do you mean she pronounced your name wrong or she called you an entirely different name? Is she using your first name? It’s more professional to stick to surnames I think.
How do you know she caused the infection? And why did you continue to pay to see her after that? As for the stingy thing, sorry but put your big girl pants in, some treatments sting a bit.

cindersrella · 03/05/2018 07:21

Not rude..

disappearingninepatch · 03/05/2018 07:49

I'm a Natalia (not actually but the same kind of thing). I am not now nor have I ever been a Natalie. Does my head in.

Me too. I try not to react, especially in situation where it is not important, but I can't. YANBU, OP.

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