Another wedding one....

[mshoney]

I'm a single parent so money is tight. Invited to a wedding, just me. The couple want money 'if you really want to give a gift' which means they definitely want money.
I hate all this asking for money business, I find it really crass but I accept this is what most people do. How much would you give?

I think £25 is sufficient - I have never given more than this, I just couldn't afford to. xx

Give however much you want, I don't know your finances. Just try to give it without the attitude and judgement.

Sneering and whinging about money requests is getting tired.

In your position? Nothing. A nice card with a sincere message is all that is required.

I'd gift a bottle of something, prosseco or something and a card. You don't need to gift money, even if they've requested it. A couple should be happy enough that you're attending their celebration. They may also have everything they need, which is why they don't have a gift list (most people live together now before getting married so possibly already bought House things)
Don't feel obliged to gift money, if you were my guest I certainly wouldn't expect it x

Full day or evening only?

If you can afford it, £25 is more than sufficient. Perfectly reasonable that they don’t want lots of random gifts they don’t need. We had someone give us a hookah for our wedding! We don’t smoke and I’m asthmatic. I would have much preferred cash or just a nice card than something I’d have to go to the trouble of selling on eBay later.

£20/£25 is fine

Go if you want, don’t go if you don’t

Give them something if you want, don’t if you don’t

How on earth would they know your finances?

If it was a day do I would give £20. We went to an evening do which asked for money we gave a bottle it would be rude to attend with nothing even if you get a bottle of prosseco

Well what is the x lint in giving money? Hardly an enjoyable /meaningful gift to give. Just don't give a gift.

I think it's just how it is so I'll have to just go with it. They are younger than me and so I suppose it's a sign of the times.

Give them a card with two shiny lucky pennies stuck on it. Write a nice message inside. There's your monetary gift. Job done.

You can probably get them on etsy.

Or give them a card with a scratch card in.

Hmmm, maybe you should take it at face value.

We said essentially the same thing on our wedding invitations (ie that there was nothing we needed but if people wanted to give something then we'd like money that we could put towards doing up our house, I think that we also said we recognised that attending the wedding would be a cost in itself and that we'd rather see people than receive money/gifts).

Before that we were bombarded by elderly relatives asking (via our parents) what they should get. We didn't expect, want or need everyone to give us anything: this could be the same thing.