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AIBU?

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To be cross with this situation?

4 replies

Thisstinks · 02/05/2018 16:24

I live in a large single floor (like a bungalow) style building split into two separate flats which share a hallway and main front door and back door opening on to gardens. The flats are self contained but entrances and exits aren't. There is a building owned by the same landlord attached with a same set up. Due to the set up the post box is shared too. This is all relevant.

Two weeks ago new tenants moved into my building. They have been okay apart from very very loud music which doesn't particular bother me as the bedroom is at the far end so I can cut a lot out once I'm in bed and my kids sleep through anything but my neighbour is in her 80s and will complain. I am a single parent with two young children and disabled.

So far so boring until a friend came over to visit today and bumped into them in the hallway.
She recognised them and later told me that the main tenant and one of their friends had recently been in prison for a violent unprovoked attack involving weapons on an innocent person on a night out and had a string of previous convictions for physical violence usually on a cocktail of drugs and drink Angry

I've searched this and its all correct. So as it is I'm now sharing all entrances and exits with this person and all their mates who are frequently over.

I'm now worried sick and just feel trapped. I'm frightened of my elderly neighbour complaining and me getting the blame for it. I'm frightened of them kicking off for some reason, of my children sharing the hallway and garden with these people.

I can't afford to move at present although I'm trying to save.
Do landlords not do references checks usually?
If you were a landlord would you really not care enough to put someone like this in with someone vulnerable.

Aibu and over reacting?

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Queenoftheblitz · 02/05/2018 16:47

I think you're over reacting.
Thousands of prisoners are released every week and move back into the community alngside us - you just happened to see it in black and white.
Some yobs don''t misbehave in their own homes, some turn over a new leaf.
Your neighbour has a right to complain about noise and you can't live worrying about what people might do.
This person may be having weekly meetings with a probation officer to keep him on the straight and narrow.
Just keep your eyes peeled.

Thisstinks · 02/05/2018 16:52

Thanks Queen. I'm currently having CBT for anxiety so willing to accept that sometimes I may react through anxiety!

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TheIsland · 02/05/2018 16:54

I agree. Talk to your counsellor as they will know you better about what strategies you can put into place.

Mightymucks · 02/05/2018 17:58

I would be very cautious. Avoid them and warn your neighbour. Contact the landlord at the first sign of problems and tell them the whole story. Give your kids the ‘strangers’ talk and impress on them that your neighbours are strangers.

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