I'm unsure. AIBU?

[NeverTell9871]

Name changed for this.

Partner is working away. He works very hard and he always keeps in touch. This isn't an issue (as such). He's a lovely man and I count myself lucky have him. We have our issues but I'm sure all relationships do!

My AIBU is.. he asked me to call him and promise to do so (FaceTime) before I took her to bed as he is working away tonight. I did just as he asked. She loves hearing his voice and he is usually the one to put her to bed when he's here and he likes that this is 'his thing' as I do most other things as he works and I'm on maternity leave still.

At the time of me FaceTiming (at his request) he was really angry with us because we interrupted his whatsapp (FaceTime thing) with my step daughter. Because we FaceTimed him normally, he was agree that we interrupted and 'took over' his whatsapp FaceTime with my step daughter.

I understood and said I was sorry and for him to call her straight back as I didn't realise it 'took it over' with the different means of contact. But now his DD3 is in bed fast asleep and he hadn't bothered to call us back to see her.

Now, let's just understand that I'm not arsed as I'm right here with her cuddles and smiles. HE is the one who asked for the FaceTime in the first place.

I understand, it's just a FaceTime. But DSD2 has always seemed to take priority. The problem here I guess is that we don't see her half as much as we would love to. She lives much further away and we still manage to get here every weekend which is brilliant but he doesn't care half as much over Step Daughter 1 or 'live in' daughter 3 as he does with Step daughter 2.

I guess my AIBU is that am I wrong in thinking he cannot be annoyed with me for FaceTiming him AT HIS REQUEST and getting annoyed when he's pissed off with me for 'interrupting' his other chat with my SD2 when I obviously never realised at the time also that he never bothered to call us back.

This is somewhat lighthearted as I haven't said anything to him about this. Maybe I never will. But there is no doubt he has his faves and it most definitely isn't DSD1 or DD3!

He sounds like a prat. What age are the older dds. Are dsd1 dsd2 full siblings do they she see the difference in how he treats all three dds?

Hm you have confirmed what I thought.

DSD1 sees the different in behaviour and she has a different mother to DSD2.

They most definitely did used to be treated differently but since DD3 has come along, there SEEM to be all equal. I think this is why I'm so bugged. Everything was equal until tonight.

Over compensation had always been an issue with the 'dad guilt' but not so much recently as he has learnt all kids will be treat the same wether they like it or now (harsh? Don't care). All of the girls are the same wether they are with us or not and that's just how we work.

If he was already on a call why didn’t he reject yours and ring you back? or why didn’t he text and say I’m just going to talk to DD2 (as arranged?) will FaceTime in 5/10 minutes etc?

He’s over complicated and overreacted.

Exactly my thinking. Ignore me. It would have probably had the same outcome but jd be much less offended!

Glad you've said that.

DD3 couldn't care less as is only a baby so knows no different. Only reason I called was because he asked me to, she knows no difference at this age.