What now?

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Posting for traffic - I have just turned 50 and have just found out that my husband of thirty years has downloaded pictures of women he knows and has known in the past onto his phone. This includes our next door neighbour! He says he doesn’t know why he has done it but insists that there have been no meetings or affairs. I am bloody fuming! We have three children - I don’t know what to do

Anyone?

Do you mean naked pictures? How did he get those kind of pictures of these women?

Insist he comes up with a better explanation. That's not healthy behaviour. I'm sure your friends and neighbours would be horrified to know he's serving over their photos.

I would suggest your starter for fifty (pardon the pun) is to nail his testicles to the floor whilst he comes up with a better explanation.

We have been through weeks of hell. He is on medication and seeing a therapist. I believe nothing has happened - am I being stupid? I on the other hand have not told a soul (outside of MN) So when I see the neighbour for example I cry inside. No pics weren’t naked. They were profile pics from fb etc

You aren't being stupid. He downloaded them to letch on. What other excuse could there be? He just doeant want to admit it.

I'm not sure this can't be sorted out...is he genuinely contrite? Does he understand what he did and how it hurt you?

Did he do it deliberately? I ask as my phone automatically paired up with my Facebook and downloaded all my contacts Facebook profile pictures if it could make the association.

He knows how much he has hurt me and I feel he is truly sorry. Yes there’s a way back - I’m not going to throw away our years together because he’s been an absolute arsehole. In my heart of hearts I know he hasn’t met up with these women or even messaged them. With regards to meds, he has been on antidepressants for years and the dose has been doubled.