Saved about 1/3 of my wage in 20's for years – initially paying back student debt. Same as rent which left things tight - and a few rental moves dented the savings. I was earning a decent amount though.
Married DH had very small wedding to keep costs down introduced DH to the concept of saving and he started adding to pot we had - had DC and lived in crap but cheap house – which badly affected mine and one of the children’s health with both of us developing asthma.
We had bad news in that DH job went and we had to move for work and take massive pay cut but it was a much cheaper area – and even with DH pay cut and me being SAHM we manged to buy a house.
It was a house needing work and despite full structural survey it was a money pit and actually quite depressing – nearly lost it when DH was made redundant – but then got stuck trying to sell it when his job was other end of the country.
Despite nearly 7 years of repayment mortgage and using a big insurance pay out when one of us was badly hurt by someone negligence to pay mortgage down during our time there – house sold for less than we paid for it despite small fortune spent on it and we got out deposit that we put in.
DH wage had doubled but we couldn’t afford to live near where he works so we had to look much further away leaving him with a long commute and compromise on the schools to get a commutable distance within price range.
We have a lovely house now but still have over 20 years of mortgage left before it ours just before we retire – unless we have to move again for work.
I’ve been planning it since I was 21 – took early 30s to get in position to buy, 40s before we were somewhere we liked and we will be near 65 before it’s paid off. Still lucky we have got on and found work near two cheap housing areas but dread to think how much harder our kids will have it.