To think a child shouldn't be off sick from school but be able to go shopping with parent?

[AlexanderandPie]

Or is this acceptable?

What type of shopping? Full day round the Bull Ring? No. Quickly popping to the supermarket for food? Yes (assuming said child isn't spewing everywhere, in which case I'd ask a neighbour etc for a favour if they were going).

What do you mean by shopping? A five hour spree at Westfield with lunch included, no, but a bit of food shopping or nipping out to a couple of shops to grab something needed, then yes.

Child too unwell to do a 7/8 hour day at school but parent needs medication/food from shop that takes 30 minutes? Of course it’s fine!

A quick trip to the shops doesn't really require any energy as opposed to a whole day at school. And don't forget that perfectly we children are often kept off school due to 48 hour D&V policies.

Ds has had two periods of beinb off school for 2-3 weeks. As a single Mum should we stay in the house for the whole of that time?

Dd was too poorly for school yesterday. As the day progressed, she slowly felt better. We popped to the local co op in the morning to buy her some polos as she felt sick as mint helps. I also picked up a couple of things while I was there. She’s better today and at school. If someone said that to me, I’d think they were bonkers.

Why the question?

My 5 yr old had chicken pox the second week of the Easter holiday. She went back to school as normal but still has some scabs from the nastiest pox. Then the first week back, the 2 yr old came down with it. Fortunately she's now crusty too and neither are infectious. Needless to say we've been stuck in the house for a while so on Friday we went shopping. Feel like I haven't been able to do that for ages, I hate shopping normally but it was just nice to be out! There were comments and shitty looks. From well meaning people like you, obviously

Mine has recently been off sick for:

Impetigo (contagious, she can't go to school but felt fine in herself).

Vomit caused by a migraine (school request she stayed home for 48hrs but 24hrs later she was totally fine!)

2 week recovery after a tonsilectomy. She was really ill for 7 - 10 days but was recommended to stay off school for 2 weeks so the second week we went away on holiday.

All meant no school but a child well enough to go shopping.

Whose child, and do you know why they were off?

(I once had 'going food shopping' quite literally prescribed for my child as part of reintegration into normal life after some serious mental health problems. I think if anyone had stopped us and queried it, they might have got both barrels, but possibly my don't-mess-with-the-stressed-parent face kept them at bay.)

If the kids are infectious there is always click and collect type shopping. Kids of school age I would leave in the car for a pop in local spar for one or two things (not a 20 min browse but you know grab and run) provided they are not an utter nightmare fiddling with things etc

You might have seen me in the coop with ds(6) having just been to de formanyibiotics for ear infection biting him some yummy food after not eating much for a while due to pain....

Depends on illness, parent, child, situation.....length of time child out

So who knows if YABU but yes you are on the face of it....

Of course if the parents decide they're not contagious and they're well enough for it.

Gosh apologies for typos.... should use preview!

Depends on the illness. If serious illness then no, not at all I'd wait for DH to come home or make him go for things on his way back. If it's just a cough/cold situation then if I needed to go out before DH is home I would - usually to the pharmacy for calpol as I never have any in! Wouldn't go on a 3/4 hour shopping trip with a poorly DS regardless though.
Last year, a friend's DS had croup and we met up for a playdate at hers because her DS wasn't going to nursery - neglected to tell me its highly contagious resulting in me having to rush my DS to hospital a few days later because he'd caught it! That, to me, was bang out of order basically not caring that my son could catch the same thing that scared the life out of her when it happened to her DS just because she wanted some company. Haven't met up with her since.

What about kids that are in the 24-48 hour wait period? I know it's recommended to remain off work/school for this time after certain bugs.

I think pottering about with a parent is very different from the structure of being at school. School is exhausting for kids, especially when they're not feeling completely well.

My DS used to be sent home 'sick' all the time with diarrhoea, although he didn't actually have it, he had just never done a solid poo in his life. I would just get on with life, take him shopping, do whatever I was doing.

Life doesn't stop because the school have no clue!

If the child can't be left at home alone then surely it's better for them to be out with a parent if they're not infectious. A pharmacist may need to see the child and advise on medication.

My DS (3) specialises in being too sick for nursery to take him, but not remotely sick enough to stay indoors all day. When he's asked for the 100th time "what are we DOING today?" I often take him shopping just to be out in the world but not close enough other people to infect them.

Obviously not with D&V!

not really your business

how do you know they are sick? Maybe they are home educated. or maybe they are sick but without the food shop would be starving as not enough food in the house. maybe been off a few days and the shop is urgent?

Reminds me of the time DD then 9 successfully feigned illness for a couple of hours before giving herself away. Turned out she had been having problems with one of the girls in her class. We had a chat and a cuddle and then I made her do some maths and come with me to the gym where she had to spend 40 minutes swimming lengths with no playing as she was missing PE. We popped to TESCOs for some bits and pieces before I made her sit on the sofa and read until her sister got home.

Her form teacher thought it was really funny (mother of 4) that she hadn't been allowed the self indulgent day on the sofa with the TV she had expected - although she was also supportive enough to deal with the problem and give DD a lecture on lying to mummy and getting her worried when she wasn't really ill.

So you never really know what is going on.

Yes. But the parent should walk in front ringing a bell and shouting 'Unclean!!' Just in case.

Is there nothing at all some people wont judge others for???