Aibu to wish that mothers would stop judging each other?

[Ilovecsleep]

I’ve just read yet another judgy thread on here about children and sleep. It seems to be a war where attachment parenrs are branded as ‘lunitics’ and people thabt more a more parent led schedule as ‘neglectful’.

What on Earth has happened to the sisterhood? Why on Earth is it deemed ok to judge and criticise another woman’s approach to bringing up, growing or birthing her child? It needs to stop as we are getting very polarised here.

I am fed up with reading negitive comments on breast v bottle, natural birth v one with pain relief or even a section, or any other topic. If you want to talk about your experiences and give advice do so in a way that sets out why you made the choice you did without judging or making other women feel inadequate.

As women we need to stick together not our different approaches to life tear us apart. How can we demand equality when we don’t see each other as equal?

Nothing to do with sisterhood, parenthood is HARD. I agree why can't we (as parents) support each others' choices more and stop trying to look perfect. I kind of know why it happens... making choices about parenting is so tough and we all question ourselves... so making an impassioned defence of our own choices (without realising we're inadvertently criticising others' choices) online is very appealing! If we all felt relaxed about the way we parent, we'd be too busy enjoying life to start picking at other people's decisions IMO.

The Sufragettes and the womens lib movement were a small number of women. They still achieved a great deal.

The 'sisterhood' is another patriarchal idea designed to make women feel shit and responsible for other women in a way that men never, never are. You've fallen for it. Instead of fighting the patriarchy you're on here complaining about other women.

If there's one thing I can say I've learned though life it's that there is more than one way to raise a child and what's right for one family isn't right for another. There is no one right answer.

I think the point is that it's women judging other women for their parenting choices concerning a child that presumably also has another biological parent who somehow doesn't seem to bear the same responsibility or receive judgement.

Because a lot of people are just judgemental and thinking that people who do things differently are neglectful helps paths who are unsure of their own choices feel better about themselves.

There's no sisterhood. There's the rest of the world and you. Life has taught me no-one gives a fuck about anyone other than their good self. You have to ignore everyone else and get on with life.

AIBU brings the cunts out, OP.

Have a conversation about sleep training in real life; most of your friends will either look at you like and wonder what the hell you're talking about, or it'll just be a brief conversation about what worked best.

On AIBU it's a race to prove that your way was PERFECT and anyone who did it differently is a bad mother. Usually a lack of confidence in their own choices so they have to dismiss others. The sad thing is, there's often a lot of useful debate and discussion in there that could be helpful to parents considering their options if they have a bad sleeper - but it gets lost, because all these parents will see is people calling each other lunatics and abusers and be scared off.

There isn't a "sisterhood", unfortunately. Most people are capable of realising that people make different parenting decisions for different reasons and can discuss these reasons while being respectful. Some people here haven't reached that level of maturity yet.