To feel left out?

[peoplearemean]

NC for this. Last year my kids school held a big ticketed event where you have to buy tickets in a group. As soon as I found out about it I contacted my friends to see if we could go together, they had already bought tickets together - without me. At the risk of sounding like a child it really upset me and a couple of them realised their thoughtlessness and apologised. I ended up on another table with some people I know pretty well. Fast forward to this year and same thing has happened which I semi expected but worse, the other group had also forgotten about me and I kind of had to invite myself. Now feel like a total Billy no mates and not sure whether to bother going. I just don't get what I have done to be treated like this, one of the particular ringleaders I have always felt doesn't like me and most of my friends don't like her that much but have chosen to go with her over me. Again I realise this all sounds petty but I am so upset about it feel like I'm back in the playground myself. DH thinks I'm overreacting and should just go but I really don't want to go anymore, what would you do?

I'd feel like hurt like you also, but please don't let it stop you going.

This could either be something the groups are doing on purpose, or a complete unfortunate oversight.

don't let it stop you having fun x

Thank you still undecided. My mum says don't go and DH says go.

I would feel the same too and not want to go. Would you enjoy the event? If it's a good laugh you should go.

I would enjoy it, just feel a bit paranoid.

Go and enjoy. I was left out at a school quiz night, so called friendly mums who said I could join them grouped together., no no space left on their team.
I ended up with the head teacher and the secretary , we had a blast and beat the pants off my friends. Once we won, they said not fair, that was the head winning, very smart knows everything, till the head said I had answered most of it. shut them right up

Sorry to hear it, I can see why that would be upsetting, but I think you should still go and try have a nice time

I often think with these events people get included because they're vocal and will put themselves out there to be part of a group.
Waiting/expecting to be asked can often be a recipe for disaster.
People are so delighted to be included or not have to do any arranging they'll accept an invitation and not give a second thought to anyone else because deep down many people are insecure about this sort of stuff and are just delighted to included!

I think all schools are like this, parents vying to be in the "in crowd"

Seriously, do you really want to go? If you do, then make it happen. Personally I wouldn't.