To give them free rein

[westworld8776]

So I’m going back to work and sister 1 was going to do childcare for me one day a week. She’s sensible and I said I was happy to cover any expenses associated with taking my DS out e.g food if out for the day and anything she fancied to eat in the kitchen etc.

Sister 2 who has now said she would like to help but her DP is always with her.

Now it’s awkward as I feel like I shouldn’t have to let 3 people come and eat all my food and cover expenses when I only need one person.

On top of this sister 2 boundaries are a bit off, she’ll quite happily decide she needs something and look through my bathroom/bedroom drawers in search for it.

I feel like sister 2 would take advantage and and eat all the goodies. Although I’ve said I’ll give them free rein, I think there are unspoken boundaries.

Am I being really petty? They are saving my £200 a month in nursery fees, but I only need one person and quite honestly am not comfortable with sister 2 and her DP being in my house all day - I don’t think they’d respect our privacy.

Id give this kind of hoopla a swerve and just sort a nursery place.

Do you really want to be coming home to a tip of a house and your food raided.

Are they all wanting paying? Do they think its the magic money tree?

So they are reducing their working week and reducing their pay by one day a week to help you out? Sounds weird. You say you 'believe' this is what they are going to do? Surely you actually need to know this for sure? Sounds like a bizarre arrangement all round.

They aren’t taking an extra day off. Just requesting they can take a specific day off to help me out. As been said, they may eventually dislike sacrificing their day off to look after a one year old.

I think I’d rather just pay the nursery £200 a month than this. 3 adults to look after a 1 year old.
By the time you’ve paid for food for the 3 of them in the house plus expenses for your child it may not be much of a difference

I see. Tbh honest i think it sounds like a massive pain in the ass and in all likelihood you will be sending him to nursery anyway as they will grow disinterested in a few months and hate giving up one of their days off. If you can afford it just send him to nursery. If not we will see you back here in a few months wondering what you can do about your flakey childcare and lack of privacy in your home!

Send him to nursery. I agree with swerving this hoopla. Although to be honest, I would predict that sister 2 gets bored of it, not to mention her boyfriend.

You sound rather unpleasant about Sister 2 and her DP. Do they know you dislike them?

Could they look after dc at their house? Just get a cheap travel cot for his naps and provide a small amount of money for trips/food etc or pack up for dc?