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Need a moan!

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Smellybears · 30/04/2018 21:29

Sorry but I need a moan!
Husband doing my head in. I text him this afternoon saying that I could do with some help tonight when he gets in from work as I can’t do tea, bath the baby, feed baby, get him to sleep, sterilize bottles and sort night time bottles out by a reasonable hour by myself (hubby has a habit of moaning if we have tea too late or if we don’t get much time together). Anyway, whilst little one was having his nap I managed to do tea so that it just needed reheating when dh came in from work. I also managed to bath the baby and feed him before he got in. Anyway, he had the cheek to say to me later on ‘are you not getting a shower tonight?’ ‘I will be yes but it’s taken well over an hour to get he baby to sleep, I’ve had to sterilize bottles and I’m now sorting bedtime bottles. You’ve also had a shower and I haven’t had time yet.’ Dh ‘why couldn’t you bath the baby before?’ Me ‘he was asleep? As soon as he woke up I bathed him. I was actually quite pleased that I’d got nearly everything done before you got home’. Dh then says that I’m moaning?!?!
Anyway, he’s not done anything to help out at all, he’s decided to get on the whiskey and talk to his mates on the phone for the rest of the evening. He took the dog out before so that he didn’t have to help with the baby.
Sorry it’s long, I just needed to rant! I’m fed up of doing absolutely everything myself. I told him before that I really wanted a bath tonight, son is nearly 4 months old and I’ve only had one since he’s been born. Even then he very reluctantly kept an eye on him. I never got my bath, gutted as I have a lush bath bomb crying out to be used! Fed up asking him for his help and him not doing anything. I understand he works (6/7 days a week at the min) but we are meant to be parents together.

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Smellybears · 30/04/2018 21:37

His drinking is also affecting me. He will have a drink most days ‘on lunch’, I’m not daft, I know he sometimes finished work early and goes to the pub before coming home. I’ve spoken to him so many times and asked him to cut down but he won’t. Told him so many times that it can’t carry on and that I want to leave him but he says that I’m pushing him away and that there’s another reason I want to leave as there’s ‘more to it than drink’. There isn’t though, I genuinely can’t be bothered with his drinking. Told him he’s got a drink problem but he won’t accept it. He will behave for a couple of days and creep round me then gets back drinking again. His family have spoken to him about it too but it goes over his head. I tell him I’m going to leave and he’s all apologetic and ‘that’s it, I’m never drinking again’ to which I tell him not to say that as I’ve heard it so many times before.
Again sorry to moan, I just haven’t got anyone in rl that I can talk to

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