To be totally pissed off!

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ThePinkOcelot · 30/04/2018 20:01

By people on threads who come up with shit like -
“My DH wouldn’t dream of doing that!”
“My DP wouldn’t associate with that sort of person!”
“My DH would never do that to me!”
Blah, blah, fucking blah!!
ODFOD!!
For one, I’m sure the poor OP doesn’t want to hear how virtuous someone else’s OH is and no one (I don’t care who thinks they do!) knows their OH 100%. They just don’t!
How many women on the relationship board would have thought they would have found out their OH treated them badly. None I’m sure!
So, if you haven’t got anything constructive to say, just don’t bother!!

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ConciseandNice · 30/04/2018 20:02

YANBU!

My favourite is ‘My DH would never look at another woman.’ Yes. Because they stop being human when they met you and became an automaton. Eye roll.

ificouldwritealettertome · 30/04/2018 20:14

YANBU! It's so unhelpful and the reason I've never posted anything really bad about DH!

Sunflowerhappy · 30/04/2018 20:14

Some women cling on to everything their husband says to them...like on another thread someone said my husband says he's only going to hooters because it's near the train station and he's not the sort to oggle or bother about the women in the skimpy clothes.....hmmm sure.

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ThePinkOcelot · 30/04/2018 20:23

Just makes me want to scream tbh!

I’ve been with my DH for years but I certainly wouldn’t bleat on saying he wouldn’t do this or he wouldn’t do that. Because the truth is, I don’t know!

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TheVermiciousKnid · 30/04/2018 20:27

Yabu! My DH wouldn't dream of having a wife who started a thread like this!

Walkaboutwendy · 30/04/2018 20:32

Makes me chuckle when they quote their DH as a leading authority on X, Y or Z and what he says we should do, as if us fluffy headed little kitten lovers were waiting for the opinion of some random bloke to guide us

arethereanyleftatall · 30/04/2018 20:36

Yabu.
Posters do that when the op normalises really shitty behaviour, my understanding is that it's a way of saying 'this isn't normal.'

Queenoftheblitz · 30/04/2018 20:39

It's an insensitive thing to say when a poster has been let down by the man she loves. It comes across as gloating even if it's not meant that way. Makes me cringe.
My ex was the most honourable upright person I've ever known. Yet he cheated on me. Even he was shocked at what he'd done because he was so anti cheating.

DairyisClosed · 30/04/2018 20:45

Sometimes it is relevant. For instance when people start posting about how no one can know their DH 100% as if that is somehow proof of anything. For instance. I cannot know every thought that passes through B my husband's mind but I know 100%that he would never become a communist. He could say same of me and it would be true. Likewise I knife 100% that he would never have an affair and if he made the same assertion of me it would be true. We can say these things about I've another not because we are mind reader but because we understand one another. When things like infidelity (of communism) are discussed the shared revultion is palpable.

imweirdandcool · 30/04/2018 20:52

I don't think they do it to show off I think it's more to high light how someone should be treated and there are men put there who respect women

OllyBJolly · 30/04/2018 20:58

When things like infidelity (are discussed the shared revulsion is palpable.

My XH was so vocal about infidelity. His mother had left the family to be with the OM when DH (the oldest) was 8. He said often that he couldn't forgive her for not trying harder to make things work for her DCs. Marriage was a commitment that couldn't be broken. He had an affair- total shock to everyone who knew him.

I remember at toddlers' group one woman boasting that her DH would never look at another woman. His OW was there at the time and we all knew.

You can't know.

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