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Looming End of Lovely Job

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sadnotglad · 30/04/2018 19:50

Really need some support from all you great people. I have been in my current post for 18 yrs, put so much into it, very much a specialised position and have recently found out that the 'powers that be' are cutting costs and getting rid of one third of us.
Am not the sort to sob into a corner, but that is exactly what I am doing right now. Feeling demoralised, undervalued and thoroughly gutted.

I know I need to put my big girl pants on, unfortunately I am sinking into a world of big glasses of alcohol and big bars of choccy. This is between the gallons of tears I am shedding (in my own time). Can't sleep, feel like utter crap, need some support please. x

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sadnotglad · 30/04/2018 19:53

Sorry not wishing to drip feed but have history of anxiety and possibly perimenopausal.

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ConciseandNice · 30/04/2018 19:53

Oh love, I’m so sorry. That’s really hard. Do you know that you’ll be one of the people to be let go yet? When we spend so long in a place (or even if not so long but we love it) it’s an important part of our life. I totally get the hurt. I’m so sorry.

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sadnotglad · 30/04/2018 20:10

Concise and soooo nice!, we have been told to apply for our own jobs, which I will do, have been doing this the 2nd longest in this role, am aware that others in our team in a similar position but I really have/do give it my all and feel shitty about the upcoming competition regarding keeping the post. It will all apparently come down to one interview, not experience, etc. Utter bullshit. x

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HoneyBadgerApparently · 30/04/2018 20:13

They have to say it will come down to the interview because of discrimination (first in, first out isn't allowed) but in reality they will know who the best workers are and know who they want to keep. I'm sure you'll be OK. That being said I realise this must be incredibly stressful and demoralising

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sadnotglad · 30/04/2018 20:22

Thank you, Honeybadger, am certain I am a good worker (they often rely on me to deal with difficult situations, etc) but at the grand age of 48 (!) there are others that have been employed since with more qualifications. Trying to stop a downward spiral of depression! x

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TSSDNCOP · 30/04/2018 20:36

Ok you are allowed to wallow in misery a bit longer but then you’ve absolutely got to suit up.

You have to find a way to convincingly state that your experience and skills massively trump qualifications. Draw on your appraisals, ask others to write you references.

You can go large or go home. But if you want this job you need to kick the doors in.

BakedBeans47 · 30/04/2018 20:44

I am sorry I have been there too, it’s gutting.

I ended up deciding staying would probably be worse than going and bit the bullet and took VR and it worked out OK. Even if you end up going it won’t be the end of the world :) xx

Gigigigigi · 30/04/2018 20:49

I lost the job I loved very recently and it was extremely hard. I’m still in the grieving process, but trying to see it as a beginning rather than an ending.

You haven’t been told you’ll definitely lose your job yet. And if you do, you will get some redundancy money at least. I know that may not make you feel better now, but it definitely softened the blow for me after a few weeks.

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sadnotglad · 30/04/2018 21:22

Thank you all! Have decided to kick ass and fight!

Gigi, have not gone through the process but will be royally pissed off if I don't get a fair go as I know I am good enough to have taken new employees through the ropes.

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RandomMess · 30/04/2018 21:31

Urgh it's a horrid thing buckets of empathy from me!!!

We didn't have interviews bullshit tests etc and it was all about work way above our grade etc and the 2 favourites came top - surprise surprise!!!

Cherrypieface123 · 30/04/2018 21:33

Call their bluff. Start looking elsewhere. It’s not a nice place to work if they treat you like this.

picklemepopcorn · 30/04/2018 21:38

Other people may look for other jobs or want to take redundancy. It may not be as bad as you fear! Stay hopeful!

Bluelady · 30/04/2018 21:42

Sounds awful, I'd be crying too. If you work in the sector I think you do, it will cost a lot to make you redundant and that will definitely be a consideration. I do hope you're safe.

angularmerkel · 30/04/2018 21:48

OP I could have written your post this time last year. I had been at my job for 14 years and I loved it and was good at it but the organisation closed my site down and we were all made redundant. It was devastating, I know how you must be feeling.
However i have found that life goes on - you'll find something else that might not feel as good initially but you will make your own and you'll realise that your job isn't everything. It hasn't been an easy year at all but I've just secured a dream job and I'm keeping my hand in in my old job role by doing some freelance work. I still see lots of ex-colleagues and everyone is in a similar boat.
Give yourself time to grieve your job, if it does end up going but also know that there's something else out there for you too.

Timeforabiscuit · 30/04/2018 21:53

Look elsewhere, honestly, get the cv together and start casting your line - DO NOT fool yourself that loyalty or hardwork means anything to your employer, the reason you had a brilliant job was You. Your attitude, your energy and your effort - be proud of yourself, remind you and your colleagues of all you've achieved and get out and do something a bit different and a bit scary.

If you stay, it'll be the same work with less staff and more shite, you might get a small promotion which will in no way be recompence for either what you currently do or salve the guilt of "taking" a colleagues job. It is end to end a shite state of affairs.

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