AIBU to not want to meet up?

[SundayGirlB]

Going up north on a country retreat next month with DH. Currently, we live about 6 hour drive away from his DS, BIL and their DD.

The location of our getaway would mean we were 2.5 hours away from them. We drove to see them around Xmas and are planning on meeting somewhere halfway late summer.

My DH and I both work, he especially late and we only have weekends together and he occasionally has to work one day of those. This will be our only holiday alone this year as I have used up all my AL going to see his family.

So, AIBU to dodge taking a day out of our trip to see them? DH not keen but would not go down well to say the least.

Yanbu at all! Go and enjoy the valuable time together just the two of you x

So your going on holiday 2.5 hours away from them. I'd tell them you would happily meet up within an half hour/hour drive of where your staying if they want to see you.

(Hopefully they say no)

Tell them to come to you.

NBU at all, your holiday, do what you want. It's not as if they're 5 minutes away, it's essentially a whole day from a precious time with your DH.

YANBU. Just don't tell them. Or invite them to come to see you (they won't).

That’s not really near at all in my book. I wouldn’t bother.

Unfortunately We were outed by another family member. I think I'll suggest they come to us, or least travel some of the way. They have a toddler so maybe it is too hard to travel, but then they never do. We've been to them 4 times in less than 2 years!

But really I just want to say no. Think I'm being a wuss.

2.5 hours is still quite far away! Suggest they come to you or you don’t see them. It’s your holiday after all, and if you were going somewhere else, you wouldn’t be seeing them anyway.

Can you say you have a car free pact and plan only to walk/cycle while you’re there?

Love that idea @TestingTestingWonTooFree

Thank you all, think I'll stand my ground het
Re. Best case scenario is a 3 hour round trip which isn't what I want to be doing on my holiday!