Who is BU me or my husband?

[pinklady90]

I'm after taking on a cleaner every two weeks starting Wednesday as I'm pregnant with HG and with working and looking after two small children and a husband who works long hours away I'm struggling a little. Cleaners are hard to come by where we live and I've been looking for one for a few months. We're due to go away for 10 days on Thursday and the cleaner will be in the house 3 hours Wednesday morning which is what I wanted so I booked to get my hair and nails done locally to let her get on with it. The problem is my husband is after booking a repair man for Wednesday as well to repair our boiler even though he knew I'd stuff on and we had a cleaner coming. I don't feel it's fair having a repair man in the house at the same time as the cleaner is trying to do her job he told me to cancel her. When I said no get the repair man in another day he told me he'd ask his mum to come over and sit there whilst the cleaner works and the repair man fixes the boiler. I don't think that is fair as that means the cleaner will have to work around the repair man and OHs mum. We have hot water from the electric shower and immersion. We have a fire we can light for heat and we've electric heaters and it's not like the heating will be on when we're away so I don't see why we cannot wait until we get back from holidays. Just to add whilst the repair man will be limited to the boiler in the kitchen he will have to look at the radiators in the other rooms so I do feel both people will be tripping over the other. Who is BU?

Both of you. No reason why they can't both be there at the same time, they'll find a way around each other!

I think they can probably work around each other. It’s only one day.
While your dh is a bit of an inconsiderate arse to create this situation, it is doable.

I think with the random weather we've been having recently, I'd want the boiler fixed before I went away on holiday as well.

Doesn't seem any reason why the cleaner and the repair man can't just work around each other?

Both of you need to chill out and concentrate on going away. The cleaner and the boiler man will be be a. It's not worth falling out over.

I would think that the repair man and the cleaner could work around each child other fine.

Just warn the cleaner in advance.

The repair man is used to working around householders going about their business. It won't be a problem to have a cleaner in the way instead of a householder.

I really don't see a problem.

You're both a bit crazy. They can be in the house together. There is no problem here.

The repair man will be in one place. The cleaner just avoids that place and cleans everywhere else!

It’s not a big deal.

Ask the cleaner if she thinks it's ok and if not would there be a more convenient rearrangement.

We had a power flush on our boiler in January and the repair man was in all the rooms and had to drain the water from the radiators to flush through a chemical to get rid of dirt in the boiler. It was quiet messy. We then had a leak from the radiator the next day. The boiler seems to be having the same problem as back in January which is why I'm also reluctant to get any major repairs done the day before we leave as we're just having so much bad luck with this and yet they insist the boiler is fine and doesn't need replacing.

None of that information changes the fact that the cleaner can work round the repairman!

You are being unreasonable. What cleaner will be doing the room the boiler is in for three sodding hours? Is this one of those cleaners that come around in very little clothing to both excite and clean? What is the actual problem here?

Your DPs solution of bring his mum is probably a bit unreasonable but only in the face of your original unreasonableness.

They can work round each other but I wouldn't get a boiler repair the day before I went on holiday. It could cause a problem eg a leak and then you'd come back to a disaster unless DMIL is house-sitting whilst you're away

As PP have said, they should be able to work around each other.
Is the issue maybe the fact that your H resents paying for a cleaner and thinks that housework should be done by you? So he'll deliberately arrange things to make having the cleaner difficult, in the hope that you will simply accept that you are his servant and he does not need to spend any money on having cleaning done because cleaning is what you are there for?

That's exactly what I'm worried about Jessicajones. No one will be in the house for the 10 days.

We would never do a boiler repaired a day before holiday. It's not a good idea.
Otherwise you could ask cleaner if it's ok for her, but I rather do this separately - boiler repair could be unpredictable.

They can be in the same house, just make sure you tell the cleaner to expect someone else to be in there.

I disagree that the cleaner can work around the repair man. My dh once arranged someone to fix something in our bathroom while the cleaner was there. I reckon she spent a lot of time chatting and she did a pretty bad job. I'd had her before so I knew that wasn't her usual standard. I think which ever appointment was made first is the priority.

As an ex-cleaner, this wouldn't have bothered me. You just need to tell her - there's going to be a boiler man there, is that ok, can you work round him? I'd be very surprised if she was upset by it or thought it was a problem.

I'd re-arrange the boiler repair for the day after you come back from holiday. I'm assuming it's not an urgent repair

I think you're lucky that your husband organised a repair man in! No point in having a lovely clean house that doesn't operate.
The cleaner will be fine... she will probably do whole house, and wait for boiler man to finish so she can clear up after him. Boiler man probably also will be more careful about mess as won't want to ruin cleaners hard work. Win win! Have a lovely holiday

Lucky