It's not going to happen is it

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Last year me and my dh set up a plan for 2018 to sell our current home and move to a better area and move dd from her school where she’s in reception now.
We started researching schools in U.K. and planned to sell up and move, did the house up and all ready to get the plan going.

Then, my dh got offered a job abroad by his current company to start April 2018. They sent us all out to the country and we organised school places and housing etc.
The opportunity seemed really good and as they were paying all accommodations and schooling we thought this was a good opportunity to sell our house take time to buy somewhere new and stay about two years abroad then move back into U.K. when dd enters year 3 into a school that will have others entering the same age so she won’t be the only ‘new’ kid.

Anyway last week my dh company have said actually no you won’t be moving after all as we need you here. To say I’m pissed off is an understatement, there was no indication at all this was going to happen.
But worst of all I desperately want to move from where we currently live (as in far far away) and now I can’t see myself moving and getting dd into a good school to start in year 1. If I’d have started applying for schools etc last year maybe but now I just don’t know if I can make it happen.we just never imagined his company doing this (massive company never pulled this kind of crap before and lots of people move abroad with them)

Aibu to just sell my house and buy in a new area then just hope for the best finding a good school place or am I going to mess up my family just because I want to move somewhere. I have contacted a few schools and they’re all full and dd will have to go on waiting lists for year 1 entry. I really want to move but thinking now I have dd I can’t just sell up, move areas and hope for the best?! We are in south east possibly moving into London or staying south east so good school places are bloody hard to come by. Even private schools are telling us there’s no places.

I feel so deflated having all our plans disrupted by my dh company. I really think if they hadn’t done this to us we would have been moving now and school place sorted but so unsure if to just push on an move house or stay put. Wanted to move now because believe it’s bet while dd is really young.

Push ahead with the move and sort the school out when you have an address. Children do move and places do become available. If possible buy near several large primary schools and at a push be prepared to keep her on waiting lists and move her when a space becomes available.

My brother did this when they relocated. They were offered school C initially, then 2 days before term started a place came up at school A and then school B ( in terms of preference). They rented right in the heart of a patch dense with good schools with multiple form entry.

Thanks @MatildaTheCat that’s actually a very sensible idea. As dd in a good school it seems a little daft to move somewhere to put her in a lower rated school but at the same time I am ready to get out of my current town!

Push forward with the move and worry about schools when you have a new address. We ended up getting DD a place in a school we would have never considered, yet turned out to be a perfect fit. But we were offered our top three schools before term started, we turned them all down as this school was better for her, but places often come up in schools.

Thanks! This is all very reassuring! One of the schools we saw even said why don’t you wait until year 3 to join and this really made me think it’s just not going to happen.

You need to stop stressing about when is a good time to move your DD, you can't control these things. Just do it when the time is right.

Thanks life. I love a bit of controlling everything and think you’re absolutely right!

I do stress about what am I thinking taking dd out of a really good school just because I’m fed up of living where we do.
If I’d found a school who didn’t have waiting lists I’d move immediately.
I know state schools expect you to have a local address but was surprised when the private schools seemed to have such big waiting lists we were been shuffled out the door!