AIBU to want to have plastic surgery?

[se7enthings]

I know I shouldn’t, because I’m healthy and there are people with horrific medical conditions and this is a first world problem

I cannot stand my body shape, I’m like a brick, no bum no boobs no waist, in the age of social media I feel so shocking about myself, like I’m not womanly at all, I want to invest in a BBL but my OH wouldn’t appreciate me spending our mortgage deposit on something like that. I just want to know how to love me. Because for a long time I’ve hated myself.

AIBU?

I feel/felt the same about my body and have thought about a butt lift. I find my bum quite flat and I only started noticing this when the whole 'bubble butt' hype on social media began! I won't wear the same clothes I used to because of this, even though my bum is the same.

Continue working out, maybe research which exercises will benefit you most if you haven't already. Be careful with social media. I find that if I look at it long enough I just start feeling down about my appearance which is so silly! It's also in trend to have big bum/boobs, whereas not too long ago thin was in. It will change again, too.

I had a breast enlargement over 15 years ago. I've never regretted it. I'm now in proportion and have the boobs nature forgot to give me.

I’m so tempted to have something done I’ve said to my OH that we’d have a lovely house but it’s my half of deposit savings and there’s no point having a nice home if I hate myself constantly.

What was recovery after the boob job like? (Mine are a lil.....deflated)

I feel similar to you. I hate my bum (flat), my boobs (deflated after dc) and my stomach (I have a pouch from a EC). This affects what I wear and my general confidence. I actually went for a consultation a couple years back and they said I'd probably need a tummy tuck because I have stretch marks. I haven't ruled out this surgery but I was told that before any surgery, I need to be in good shape anyway - ie slim down and tone up. So this year, that's what I'm doing - i go to the gym and work on glute building exercises and stomach toning exercises. If in 6 months, I'm still unhappy and haven't improved my problems areas much, I'll go for it.

Social media is a big factor but even without that my body shape has always bothered me. Other than that, I love myself and am confident.

If it bothers you, it bothers you but try gym first, maybe a personal trainer, then if you still want it, do it.

I’d commit wholeheartedly to the gym for at least 2 years - get a personal trainer and explain what you want to work on - and learn to love the body you have, without surgery!

Also Hairy that’s truly awful, but it’s in no way related to a discussion about cosmetic surgery. It’s nothing to do with OP so please no guilt tripping

Totally agree.

In a couple of years time the trend will change and it will be all about smaller measurements and people will be racing back to the surgeons office to have everything removed

Recovery was fine. Painful at times but generally ok. I did write about it at the time but can't link because my names on it.

The thing is, no surgery is going to change your basic shape, and probably no exercise either. My bust and waist are similar to yours and I just accepted long ago I would never have a neat nipped-in waist. Maybe I could have one if I did core exercises non-stop and ate a very restricted diet, but actually enjoying myself was more important that having a small waist that I would have to work hard all my life to maintain.

Maybe better to try to find the things that really suit you and make you feel good - they are out there! I was in my late 30s when I found a great dress shape for me was a slightly high-waisted dress with a flared skirt - works with my small boobs and covers my stomach. Maybe it could work for you?

Your stats sounds fine. You're a slim and healthy size and you're probably spending too much time viewing photoshopped pics.

Have a read about "body dysmorphia"

I think this is so sad. I remember caring about this sort of thing when I was 24 and now I look back and think about all the ridiculous time I wasted worrying. You’re within the healthy weight range and that looks good! I wish I could go back and slap myself. There is a lot of money to be made trying to make women feel horrible about themselves. Don’t fall for it.

If you’re buying a house then I assume the next step is kids? Don’t pay for a heap of surgery then get pregnant. Lord knows what that will do to your body. It’s ruined my breasts and my belly and I even have stretch marks on my legs from the fast weight gain required to carry twins. I would be so upset if I went through the expense and pain of surgery and had to do it all again a few years later.

Hi, when I was 24 I thought I was really fat and I was only 9 stone!!

Since then I've gained & lost weight & I realise how daft I was.

I had smaller boobs too (a C cup) but now I'm a G cup naturally. Not sure how that happened but it shows your boobs don't stay the same!

I agree go to the gym & get a Personal Trainer to help you achieve some goals.

I’m going to try the gym thing.
I do think I’ve got Body Dysmorphia, my mum told me yesterday my boobs look saggy so there’s something else to feel shit about lol

Well now we know where your negative body image comes from. I'm sorry you have a mum who feels a need to make comments like that and I'm not surprised you're unhappy with your body. Don't have surgery for your mum's sake.