How do I deal with the fact that DH is an alcoholic?

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I've known for some time that my dh has a drink problem, but I need some help with tackling it.

For context we have 2 dc's. Both work ft, he is a great dad, loving and thoughtful husband and a great partner. We are lucky to have each other.

BUT..... He can't handle his drink. He can't draw the line no matter how good his intentions are or how hard he tries. He can't recognise the line that you don't cross when you've had enough.
He never causes any trouble in so far that he won't argue with anyone or start fights... he will fall asleep or just keep on drinking and be sick.
When I'm with him and I try to point out that he's had too much, I get told by him not to worry, he's fine
But he's not... if I'm not there he can't be trusted to find a safe way home.
In the past he's fell asleep on grass verges and been brought home by the police. I genuinely don't know if he goes out for the night that he's gonna come home safe
It's a nail biting waiting game
He's always been the same but my nerves can't take any more. Any ideas / suggestions for how to deal??

I grew up with a alcoholic parent. My childhood was awful and I live with the repercussions today.

This will be affecting your kids and if nothing else you need to do the right thing by them. Give him an ultimatum but if he breaks it you need to follow it through.

Well, as I’m sure you know by now, your DH is an addict/alcoholic. It’s not being ‘greedy’ they literally can’t stop once they’ve started that’s one of the key symptoms of addiction. He has to get help if he wants you to stick around but as PP have said that means facing up to the problem and he is probably deep in denial.

None of this is your fault or your responsibility to resolve. It took me a long time to get to that detachment point with my ex as I’m a ‘fixer’ in relationships but he is 2 years clean now, but he had to want it for himself.

Folks thank you for all your suggestions and support. I really appreciate it xx

Whilst I wouldn't say my DH had a drinking problem, he also didn't know when to stop and ended up in some dangerous and ridiculous situations. I gave him an ultimatum. I said I don't mind him drinking but not doing the things he was doing like getting lost miles away from home. If he did it again we would split up and I meant it. I made him go to his parents after a bad incident in which he came home at 8am off his face and pissed in my kitchen sink.
He didn't drink at all for a few months and has been controlled ever since and not done it for about 3 years now.