NC for this.
I've recently started driving lessons quite late in life (am 43). I'm doing ok, been on some very busy local roads, doing turns in the road, reversing, hill starts etc. I've now had 9 lessons so have had time to get used to the instructor but find her hard work. She's so negative about things, gets me in situations I'm not prepared for, eg stuck in traffic on a hill and I stalled it twice and rolled back and got stressed, teaches turns in the road and then teaches me plain reversing. She seems to leave what to do up to me but then criticises when I don't do what I should have done eg let someone cross the road when she says I should have just made them wait. She's always telling me I'm too close to parked cars and cones even though I've never even had a near miss, wants me to park about 4 inches from the curb, is paranoid about her suspension so I get told off if I don't manage to avoid a pot hole and don't get me started on speed bumps that I have to take at 10mph. Put your hand brake on, then next week: you're using your hand brake too much. I have to ask if I've done something correctly, she doesn't give any positive comments. I dread lessons. I've heard she's been like this with others too. I feel like she doesn't tell me what to do so that I get it wrong so she can criticise. In the last lesson she told me to go and reflect on the lesson because I'd not signalled at a junction where the right turn is considered straight on and no one signals. She asked if I needed to signal, I said no and carried on and she had her head in her hands. Ffs why didn't she just tell me?! I feel like an idiot half the time but she keeps changing the goal posts.
Is this what learning is like? Would ibu to change instructors?