To dislike Sundays....

[AuntyJackiesBrothersSistersBoy]

The older I get, the more I have a kind of sinking feeling, on a Sunday. It’s like the weekend’s over, which obviously it is but it’s more than that. I have a real sense of doom in a “well, that’s that for another week”. And it happens every week. We don’t do much on a Sunday and it’s become a day of catching up on bed changing and ironing for me. I am old...nearly 56 so I’m not up for taking up skydiving or whatever. It’s just a sense of sadness.

Anyone else feel this way? Just me?

Sunday is my favorite day of the week as we don’t have anything fixed that we must do. Usually it’s extra time for catching up on sleep, lazy morning in PJ’s and then brunch at the local deli. If the weather is ok we’ll go for a walk, usually Green Park or up to Hampstead Heath. Then home for a meal of a combination of left overs (Tesco’s delivery is on Monday), a glass of wine and some rubbish on the tv.

If your Sundays are shit - change them! They can be whatever you want them to be. Can't you just do the ironing another time? Life is too short.

I find Sundays really fun, a day of endless possibilities. I do chores throughout the week and get stuff ready for Monday on Friday so that the weekend is free.

It's not really an AIBU question. If you dislike something, you dislike it. It's neither reasonable nor unreasonable to like or dislike something.

However, to get over your feeling of sadness / gloom /despondency do as others have suggested and set yourself something to achieve.

Maybe a two hour walk every Sunday in a local country park or along a canal towpath or something. Or get a list of places within 60 miles of your home that you've never got round to visiting - challenge yourself to complete the list before this time next year. Or volunteer with something. Or go to Church (or visit lots of different Churches). Or get a season ticket for a local sports club. Or set yourself a challenge of one of those jobs you never get round to doing - like sorting through all your photos and labeling them and putting into albums or folders, or decluttering the loft so your kids don't have to do it when you downsize.

I’ve always felt that Sunday’s are a sort of barometer of your life.
I love Sunday’s. We tend to be very lazy after a hectic week, often spending much of the day in PJ’s.
We eat late and I’m never more content than when I’m listening to Paul O’Grady while peeling spuds!
Is the rest of your week ok?

The weekend isn't over until Monday morning.

Sunday's can be a bit frustrating as I'm trying to fit everything in, and there isn't always time, but they're better than a work day.

I hate them too, unless it’s a bank holiday weekend. I too feel like that’s it all over for another week. Even as as child it was the same - school looming the next day, unfinished homework waiting to be done, the smell of vegetables boiling for the Sunday dinnner, the misery of having to go to church, the Heartbeat theme tune in the background as I had my weekly bath.

I agree...it’s not really AIBU but wasn’t sure where it belonged. Probably, mental health. I was up around 0830 today. Stripped two beds/made two beds. Ironing and Sainsbury’s with son. DS is disabled and I can’t really leave him for more than a couple of hours, to do anything. DH walked the dog (always gets a good long walk as in 2-3 hours at the weekend). Sometimes, if we walk the dog together, we might call at a pub for a quick drink, on the way home but as I say, we can’t go far, with or without DS. DS won’t come with us but doesn’t want us to leave him either.

In the week, I’m so busy that I don’t get time to ponder much. I suppose, I just expect more for 2 days a week.

Oh God, ignore me! And DH is an avid atheist. If I joined a church, he’d have a fit 😐

Me too. I start work at 9 tonight till 7 in the morning. Bloody ruins my Sunday. But tonight is last Sunday shift!

I am old - 56

If you say so. But I'm not old. And I'm 56.

I'm not keen on Mondays though 🧐🤭😝

I have never liked Sundays. Can’t explain it and it doesn’t matter what I’m doing I don’t even like Sundays when I’m on holiday. I also don’t like wandering around aimlessly just for the sake of it, just seems pointless. Go for a coffee why what would that achieve. I really don’t like them

Maybe you should try a garden centre?

Well what would you like to do? And what's stopping you doing it? Unless there are bigger issues here, it sounds like you need to start to reconnect with how you like to spend your time and make some plans. Maybe start by brainstorming all the ways you like to spend your time, or used to like to spend you time, or it once crossed your mind you might like to do. Big things. Little things. Don't judge your list or worry too much about the practicalities, just keep writing. Then commit some time each week to planning and putting things in the diary.

An 55 really, really isn't old.

i used to be like this but it was mainly because i hated your job. i feel if you dread the week that much you need to make changes life shouldnt be something you dread. do all you cn to make it better

Sundays I mean not coffees! Garden centres are the seventh circle of hell as far as I’m concerned

My children are teenagers now. When they were little weekends were full on. Sometimes when they were very small I was desperate to get back to work! Now they are older I have a lot more time at my disposal. Roughly speaking I try to make Saturdays my "getting things done" day and Sundays my "do what I want" day. If there is nothing else happening they I will be reading, walking, playing my musical instrument, gardening, whatever. Though right now I am at a climbing centre waiting for my DD's climbing lesson to finish. Not my first choice...

I enjoy them.
I work alternate Saturday mornings, so it is the only day I can really guarantee to relax.
I tend to catch up with housework and do shopping on a Saturday afternoon so Sundays are fairly free to do as I please. Sometimes we just chill out, or I will see my mum and we will go out somewhere nice.

I'm a teacher so I've had Sunday -night -school -tomorrow dread most of my life! However even in holiday times I still don't like Sundays and I still love Fridays

Same - even when we do stuff it just has a sense of melancholy.

Yy to heartbeat and last of the summer wine! I hated school with a passion as I was bullied. The feeling stayed.

Interestingly I get the Friday feeling - excitement for the weekend. Even on the weeks I work Saturday the Friday feeling is still there.

I like Sundays. We go to church and most weeks our eldest son and family come for lunch, followed by games with the children. Once they have gone we relax with the paper and maybe walk the dog now the evenings are lighter.
And by the way 55 is not old. I am 66, and I 'm not old.

Sundays are a shocker. Always have been.
For me it's the constant count down till the end of the week and tedious predictability. Short shopping hours so you are rammed in with everyone else, a big lunch followed by a walk. crap TV, and always prep for the next week. Hate it all.

Luckily I love, love love Mondays. A new week always fills me with promise!

Ok I've read your second post now. So it isn't as straightforward as "what would you like to do". I guess you are busy in the week and feel that Sundays should be the good times. But they aren't really. Your problem is not being able to leave DS for more than a couple of hours, but not being able to take him on outings either.

Are there things you would like to do on your own and could take turns with DH to be responsible for DS? Are there friends you could do things with? Friends/family who could stay with DS occasionally? An occasional carer? Respite care?

I still think maybe at least starting with what you would like to do without worrying too much about the constraints might not be a bad thing. Then look at how to make at least some of the happen occasionally.

I don't like Sundays either.

I have never liked them. They just make me feel down.

I now work the night shift every other Sunday (tonight) so that makes it even worse. Trying to sleep before going to work is impossible with all the children at home.

Even if I am doing something nice I still feel the horrible Sunday feeling.

Second that be thankful you're not a teacher - I've written 40 reports and marked 20 books so far. Wish I had some time to kill.

When I was a kid, Sundays really were depressing! The shops were shut, no cinema either, we didn't have a TV til I was 9 (in 1960), nowhere was open except the churches, and there was nothing to do. NOW Sunday morning radio/TV, go somewhere nice for Sunday lunch, visit grandchildren, take dog out, cinema, and good evening TV to look forward to! What's no5 to like?

I was a teacher, Biscay which is probably why I enjoy Sundays so much now I am retired.
I remember that Sunday afternoon sinking feeling so well.