I can’t deal with the favoutism anymore.

[hattiesmumm]

My dps grandparents favour his sisters child over ours. And it’s so bloody obvious that they don’t even hide it. They send DN parcels each week, pay for dance lessons, swimming, give her pocket money etc. They go to their house and stay there for a week at a time. They have seen DD 3 times and she’s nearly 2. DN is 4.
Each time they have been to see DD they last 30 mins and then go. They only come here when driving past to go and see other family members.
It’s getting me down so much. Dd doesn’t have a grandma from myside as she passed away a few years ago.

They apparently treated dp and his dsis different throughout their childhood too, like dsis will get a bike and dp a chocolate bar.

Even things like comments on pictures, they wil comment “she’s so cute” on dds pictures but a whole paragraph of how lucky they are to have dn and how beautiful and amazing she is, how they can’t wait to see her and how they are looking for x y z for her.

It actually makes me so angry. We can’t say anything for fear it will be made our fault some how. Dp doesn’t care because he’s used to it, but I’m so fed up of it being rubbed in our faces so obvious! I feel like they know what they are doing.

My fucking MIL does this. She favours DS over DD, has always liked men more than women. Her son sat down with her and told her to treat them the same, it's better now but she does slip sometimes. Thank fuck I'm leaving and contact with MIL will be minimal.

You seriously need to get dp to talk to them, next time they come explain to them how hurtful it is and how it will affect DD in the future.

PIL have favoured SIL over DH numerous times, think house deposits etc that he never got, so it was no surprise that her DC get more spent on them for birthdays, Xmas etc. FIL even referred to her DC when I was telling them about my DC achievements "oh ours do that". Ours?!
They think I haven't noticed over the years but I have.

We had this. I waited a while to see if matters would improve, then went low contact because I was concerned that my DC’s confidence would be eroded. They don’t need to see favouritism or hear non stop crowing about the cousins.

We can’t say anything for fear it will be made our fault some how

of course it will. You have a choice; let it continue or stand up to them, and -be- the bad guys. Only you're not, you're standing up for your children.

Best case they change, like parky's parents but that's not that common, I think. Your husband might not be able to stand up for you and his children, and you might have to back away from them and reduce contact.

We have this with my bil kids son imo it is not a gender thing

DH chooses to do nothing about it & I think his parents have always favoured his brother, although he would disagree .

His father is dead now so it is just Mum and she spends weeks at a time with her other sons children. I have argued and complained and moaned and groaned to no avail.

My children are now 13 & 10 and barely see their grandmother (she us with their cousins now!)

No words of wisdom but just to say you are not alone. AVOID AVOID AVOID!