Encouraging your kids to take stuff from a skip and then leave it all over the pavement?

[VelvetSpoon]

AIBU to think this is a bit fucking much?

I live in what is meant to be quite a nice part of Greater London. Grammar schools, lowish crime (for London), high average house prices etc.

Earlier this year my elderly neighbours house (N1) had a massive water leak. It affected my house too (we are semis, I had a thread on here at the time). Luckily N1 lives in a care home now so wasn't there and knows nothing about it. Insurers are dealing with the damage and basically gutting the entire house. Hence at present there is a massive skip in her front garden full of broken furniture, doors, basically loads of stuff they've been ripping out of the house.

I don't get on with my neighbours on the other side (N2). They let their kids run riot, cause a mess and are generally irritating.

Yesterday I could hear some noise outside.I look out to see Dad N2 instructing his kids to get bits of wood out of the skip in N1s garden . He then starts building a ramp for the kids to ride their bikes on. I come out to go to the shops and he's constructing this ramp on my garden wall (between my house and N2) and there's a pile of wood in my drive. I ask him to move as I need to get my car out which he does reluctantly.

When I come back the leftover wood is now all over the pavement between my house and N1s. There is a shitty makeshift ramp blocking the pavement on the other side of the road. All of which has just been left there. And makes my street look like a fucking tip

AIBU to be annoyed at all this? I grew up in social housing and as kids we would never have left the street in such a state!

Just me then...!

Report him for fly tipping...

Yes contact the council of anyone's trips he will find himself in trouble.Take photos and report.

Unfortunately I don't think our council (despite the ridiculous amount of council tax we pay) will be very interested. I will give it a go though.

YANBU, leaving wood on your driveway is just plain rude. I'd be fuming. But it sounds like you have bigger issues with this neighbour. You can hardly march over there and say, "Excuse me, I paid extra to live in a middle-class neighbourhood so I didn't have to put up with scum like you, so can you please start being middle class now?" but there must be some way to sort things out. Are you doing (or have you done) anything to annoy them, that this might be some type of revenge?

Just reframe it OP. What a lovely parent to spend time with his children, encouraging them to play outside and see the potential of rubbish as the basis for a fun time, instead of sitting inside on their tech and expensive plastic branded rubbishy toys. What a great example of involved fatherhood. Give the man a big smile and start a playstreet committee. Then you can be proudly middle class and on-trend again.

They're just ignorant twats. The sort of people who let their kids do what they like because they're just being children. So for example their kids climbing into my garden is fine because that's what kids do . The parents are equally thoughtless for example they have a dropped kerb to their drive but because neither of them knows how to drive their massive mpv they drive over the pavement daily, as a result all the paving stones are broken, uneven and a hazard. Not to mention unsightly. It's the same neighbours I've previously posted about who let their bins overflow and also used to put stuff in my bin without asking.

I've done nothing to aggravate them apart from having more money and a significantly bigger house!

Surely this is one of those threads where surely no-one is going to say yabu so why start it?

Oh boy the bins here we go!
For the record the bins are not yours They are loaned to you by the council. Once they leave your land ie on the kerb for collection you have no control so getting your knickers in a twist over what goes in is a waste of emotional energy.
Realise that this is off topic but it gives an insight into your mindset.
As for the current topic bravo that man for getting his kids on bikes and doing something physical using repurposed waste.

lots of dirty skanks on here. if you play with stuff you put it back afterwar ds. you certainly dont leave it on someone elses property!

if this is the attitude no wonder kids are so filthy, dropping litter everywhere. their parents teach them to do it.

neighbour is an entitled brat.

It's good the father is out playing with the children but I also think they should have cleared it away after.

I am and was brought up in very poor areas and used to "midgy rake" ie play with rubbish from skips and bins. I was NOT allowed to annoy neighbours and always had to clean up after myself.

Are u friendly enough with them to talk to them?

Btw specialistsubject where I am from a "skank" is a dirty slut riddled with stds/stis. No one who has posted fits this description.

I would take pics of the rubbish and send to the Council reporting as fly tipping if this father is so involved with his children playing outside why doesn't he take them to a local park for goodness sake.
Respect for neighbours seems to have gone out of the window imo and you yanbu in my mind.

Instead of complaining on here, where he most probably won't see it, why don't you knock on his door and ask if he knows that the kids have left a mess.

Smile and be polite, it doesn't cost anything

Kids will try and get away with stuff-he might not know!

Kids in question are under 10. They are normally left to run about outside and cause a nuisance. Spending 5 mins with them knocking a nail in some wood doesn't make him father of the year. Especially when he's encouraging mess and littering.

And he's been put to his car many times since then so is definitely aware of the mess. He doesn't care. And for that reason I won't be knocking at his door.

I don't think I'm bu, but when people behave in such an entitled way it makes you doubt yourself and what you can expect...!

Wait til dark then hoik it all into his garden. Job done.

All the mess is now on the opposite side of the road. Still a bloody eyesore but at least it's not actually in front of my house.

Oh and I meant to say re the bin. Thry put rubbish in it when it was in my front garden. So not on the street awaiting collection. Not on bin day. Just because they are entitled twats.

There's an app called
" fix my street "
Try using that to report it , it's quick and easy 😀