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To ask, what cash gift would you give to work colleagues for wedding gift?

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lavendargreen · 28/04/2018 23:25

OK, so a lovely couple I know (25 and 26, both work at my workplace) have lived together for 3 years, and have sent me and DH an invitation to their wedding in June.

We are invited to the Church and evening do. It's 10 miles from where we live... So we can come home after the wedding which is at 11am, and go out in the evening ...

They have sent us a cheesy poem, (asking for money for the honeymoon,) but we don't mind. But the question is, how much do we give?

What would you give to a colleague you have known 2 years, and get on with OK, but aren't super close to IYSWIM.

Thanks in advance....... Smile

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TeeniefaeTroon · 28/04/2018 23:30

If there's no meal then £30.

Jessica78 · 28/04/2018 23:31

I would give however much you would spend on a gift for them, say £20?

user1493413286 · 28/04/2018 23:31

£25 is say is about right

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lavendargreen · 28/04/2018 23:33

There is a buffet in the evening. Smile

We were asked our food preferences on the invitation (prob need to know how many of their evening guests are veggie or vegan or whatever....)

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lavendargreen · 28/04/2018 23:34

But yeah there is no actual meal. Only close family and close friends are invited to the reception/wedding breakfast. Smile

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Dvg · 28/04/2018 23:36

I'd say £30 as thats £15 each but I wouldn't think you wer rude if you just have 20

CreamTeaa · 28/04/2018 23:44

£30-£40

TheCraicDealer · 28/04/2018 23:49

They'd get less off me because of the poem and the way they've done that weird "invite people to the ceremony, tell them to bugger off and then rock up again for sausage rolls and a disco" thing. I don't mind evening invites but I hate that. £20.

MyotherUsernameisaPun · 28/04/2018 23:51

I would give £50 myself because that's usually around what I would spend on a gift but I think anything from £30 upwards would be fine

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lavendargreen · 29/04/2018 00:01

Keep em coming thank folks. Off to bed now. Will be back tomorrow morn. Smile

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Wobblybitts · 29/04/2018 00:04

I agree, whatever you would have spent on a present give them in cash

KeepServingTheDrinks · 29/04/2018 00:07

ok... are you care assistants on minimum wage, or do you work in the City on 80k+ with expense accounts? I'd say that would make a difference.

How much do you like the couple?

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lavendargreen · 29/04/2018 12:57

We are not a couple on minimum wage, but do OK, and are fairly solvent... I am not on £80K with expense accounts (I wish.) Grin

I do like them quite a lot (so does DH, though he doesn't come into contact with them much, as they are my colleagues....)

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newbowls · 29/04/2018 13:34

£40 is my standard wedding gift.

Think I'd only be attending the evening tho - all that faffing first thing to come home again? ;-)

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lavendargreen · 29/04/2018 13:48

Thanks @newbowls, and normally I would agree with you, but the Church where the wedding is, is only 15 minutes drive, and about 8-10 miles depending on which route we take, and it's 11.30am and will be finished by around 12.30pm as the reception (for family and close friends,) is at a venue near the Church and it starts at 1pm.

So we only have to drive a short route and will be home by 12.30-12.45pm. Then we'll just chill for the afternoon, and then start getting ready for the night-do, (which is only 10-15 minutes away too,) at around 6.30pm.

If it was like 60-70 miles away, (or more,) then we would only go to one or the other, but the short distance makes it easily do-able. Smile I wouldn't expect to (or want to) go to the reception anyway, as it is for family and very close friends.

All colleagues and neighbours and acquaintances have been invited to the wedding and night-do only. I think only around 40 people are at the reception. The other 80 or so are just going to the Church ceremony and night-do. Smile

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CaseStudyResearch · 29/04/2018 13:49

Our standard is £100 for the full day and £50 for the evening.

moreismore · 29/04/2018 13:51

£50 is our standard wedding gift, irrespective of how much of the wedding we attend.

morespaceneeded · 29/04/2018 14:01

I gave £100 to a relatively close work colleague. Not a best friend or anything like that but someone I might have lunch with at work or go out for drinks with. I wasn't invited to the day.

We were both relatively high earners though - I think it's significant - we would regularly go out for eg £10/15 a pop cocktails. If your more a share a £7 bottle of wine friends then clearly that would be an extravagant amount of money.

morespaceneeded · 29/04/2018 14:03

Ps I would have given the same if I had been invited to the whole thing.

Cornettoninja · 29/04/2018 14:31

I reckon £30 per person if you and your dh are friendly with them both so £60.

Nodancingshoes · 29/04/2018 19:07

£20 for an evening do - £30-£40 for the whole day.

CandyMelts · 29/04/2018 19:09

£20 for a work colleague evening do

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lavendargreen · 30/04/2018 13:14

Thanks so much everyone. Given the responses on here, and responses from a few people at work, a couple of other people I asked, and a couple of other websites I have visited, I think we are going to go with a cash gift of £40.

Appreciate the posts. Thanks everyone. Smile

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