AIBU to say no to child number 3?

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Husband wants another baby but I don't.
I'm 39 and my husband 36. I have an 11 yr old son from a previous marriage and 3 yr old girl with current husband. I'm happy with the family we've got but husband wants another baby predominantly because he would like a biological son of his own.
I have suffered with depression and am on anti-depressants currently which was driven in the main from losing my sister suddenly 8 yrs ago.
Things are not the best between me and hubby and I feel like there's an underlying resentment on his part for me not agreeing to another baby. I'm worried it will be too hard and coming off my anti-depressants would be stressful and have a negative effect on my two children.
AIBU to continue to say no to another? I wish I could say yes but I'm just too scared. I'm so torn and feel so guilty😔

Have you spoken to him about it?! Of course you are not being unreasonable but it sounds like you need a proper chat.

YANBU it's your body.

YANBU. All the reasons d you listed were valid and all of them together is a big no to me.
You don’t want another child.
You shouldn’t come off your medication.
Your marriage isn’t in the right place to have a child.
And what if you did have a child and it was a girl?

Oh lovely, that doesn’t sound like there’s any good reasons in there for number 3.

There’s no guarantee it would be a boy anyway.

I’d get your reasons across as best as you can, and talk it through. I had bloody awful pregnancies and am still BF 2 year old, I am exhausted! And number 3 was very much wanted.

Going through all that if I didn’t want any more, not good. Me and DH are in a great place, but number 3 is still a strain, even on a good relationship.

Open, honest, talk it through. One of you needs to compromise, and it seems as though that should be your DH.

Good luck x

husband wants another baby predominantly because he would like a biological son of his own.

Does he not understand how basic biology works? If you produce another girl are you expected to carry on until he gets a boy?

Yanbu to not want another baby, that’s ok.

YANBU

What happens if you got pregnant with another girl? Would he expect you to keep acting as an Incubator for him just so he can have a boy?

Thank you all for your responses. It is def ridiculous to think that we would keep going until we had a boy. I think even if we had a girl he would not expect anymore.
Reassuring to hear that INBU.
I do feel for him as hes my husband and i love him but just hope he finds peace with it all and appreciates what he's actually got infront of him.