I seem to be enagaged to man capable of emotional abuse and I don't know how I got here?
I'm starting to think it's me with big issues. I'm thinking my relationships are always tricky and it must be me?
He's been married before and his ex accused him of this but I laughed it off!! How stupid I am.
We've been together for just over three years and are due to marry soon. He has two children and almost from day 1 I've contributed to all of the costs associated with their visits (except his maintenance). We split meals out, cinema tickets, food shopping, everything 50/50. I've never had a problem with this, I'm more comfortable with it this way. When it's just us the same applies, we split everything.
He has a large pot of savings that he was left when his dad died. It's dwindling down as he likes to buy nice things for himself, a new car and I got a lovely diamond engagement ring. We agreed he would pay for the wedding costs and I would pay him back my half. I earn good money so can probably pay back over a year, so he won't be waiting long for it.
Tonight he's accused me of being a freeloader!! He said i begrudge him buying stuff for himself (I joked that his latest purchase didn't mean we didn't have wedding funds - it was very light hearted). He said he feels like the bank of "bob"!
Alongside this he gets super angry about really silly minor things. He's lovely if everything is going his way but cruel and very uncaring when it's not!