I cancelled date now what

[Humbyhumby]

Work in silly long hours job and sadly had to cancel first date late afternoon when given stupid amounts of work. I apologies profusely. He suggested sat night to meet up again but haven’t had confirmation. I would normally leave it but still feel bad I cancelled! Do I say anything or just let things peter out? I was last to message

Just leave it and find someone who won't care when you cancel on them 😊

Say something! Otherwise he might think you're not particularly keen.

Send a brief message saying 'are we still on for tonight?' and if he doesn't answer, leave it be.

Hang on, wouldn't he be expecting you to confirm with him? You cancelled, he suggested alternate date. You should be arranging with him, surely?

I did! He said Saturday night, I said perfect and asked a q and he hasn’t replied since...

Just message him still on for tonight? Don’t overthink it.

I have made other plans now tho as didn’t hear a word

Text him with "Hi - are we still on for later? If so, does 7.30 at [venue] suit?"

You cancelled, I think it's incumbent on you to rearrange.

Have a good time!

You don't actually sound that keen to go on a date with him, so why bother and waste both your time?

If you've made other plans anyway, that answers your question.

I see no harm in sending another message to ask if the date is going ahead if you like this person.

He suggested Saturday night, I presume you replied and said yes?

Maybe he didn’t feel the need to confirm and was operating under the presumtion that you would be having the date at same time and place as had been arranged for Wednesday? You have nothing to loose- if he doesn’t reply then let it peter out.

Ah, xp.

I didn't realised you'd asked him already and he hasn't responded.

If you like him, maybe suggest Monday or Tuesday. If he's uninterested it'll be clear enough.

I think it was crossed wires! I made other plans as hadn’t heard from him but do want to meet him.

Well if you've made other plans that's sorted the issue hasn't it?

Lets hope he doesn't message today and ask if you are still on for tonight!

Ok but how can I still ask him if he’s free? Leave til tomorrow?

So he suggested Saturday, you said yes, but then you made other plans?

Neither of you sounds particularly keen to be honest.

You're overthinking this. You've left him with the impression you were meeting tonight, so if you start messaging to rearrange yet again it's likely to irritate him. I think either you meet tonight (if he's still up for this) or forget about the whole thing.

Just move on OP.🌸

You could have tried to call him before making other plans for tonight. You sound a bit flakey to me tbh.

It’s an internet date... I spoke to him and ball was in his court as he didn’t message back. Should I just ask if he’s still free tonight? I can meet him for a drink

Should I just ask if he’s still free tonight? I can meet him for a drink

Yes!

Done ;)

Great! Update us if he replies

Just leave it and find someone who won't care when you cancel on them 😊

Really? Do you really want to date someone who doesn’t care if you cancel? Personally, I’d want to date someone who is a little more invested, but maybe that’s just me.