To say "love you" to bf?

[NotSinisterAtAll]

I mean I do love her, and I normally say "be good love u and all that shit" but my mother reckons you shouldn't say it incase said friend thinks I want to snog her face off or drag her to bed! Do others say it to their closest friends? I'm slightly perplexed that my mother thinks that way but then it might be a generation thing perhaps (she's 61). Is it unreasonable to say it?! Should I stop?! 🤔

BF being best friend not boyfriend incase of confusion.

Why would you stop just because your DM told you to? She's being ridiculous.

I don't have many friends. The ones I do, I love and tell them so.

The small number of friends that I do have and love, I tell them.

@Justmuddlingalong I think she thinks people will get the "wrong idea". She's a bit odd like that.

I tell my friends I love them when they are going through a tough time etc. But it's not something I say on the phone when I end a call, like I do with my mum and family.

I think it's strange.

I tell my closet friends I love them. Why wouldn't I? It's a nice thing to say.

I think it's lovely. I always say it to my friends and I'm early 50s

I only say it to my best friend. Because I truly do love her to absolute pieces. I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it, but I also don't think it is weird to tell a friend you love them if you do. It doesn't have to be romantic love, just friendship Love!

I tell my closest friends I love them all the time, because I do. Fucking wonderful women.

We should all say it more IMO.

I tell my friends I love them - there is too little love in the world so wherever it exists it should be celebrated not hidden x

I'm always telling my bf that I love her and she tells me. She's one of my most favourite people. Infact I've told her that she is my soul mate!

@Mrsfluff I love that so much!

Not Sinister, we're already planning our care home shenanigans......... not sure where this leaves her husband and my partner

We've been friends since infants school and have seen each other through some tough times. God I love her!!

I tell my bf that I love them, why not?

Glad 99% agree. I will continue to tell my best friend I love her and not question it!

My best friend and I tell each other “love you” all the time. Because we do!

Also because we’re adults who know that love you doesn’t equate to wanting a shag.

i tell my friends i love them all the time and they tell me too. i also just so happen to be gay and funnily enough my straight friends have never thought me telling them i love them meant i wanted to snog their faces off.

im not sure if its generational, your mum is only a couple of years older than mine and she tells her friends she loves them even more than i do

iterativeConstruct
I think it's strange

Why?

Another one who tells her best friends she loves them, and none of them have ever thought I was after sex, even with ask the needs we've shared and flesh we've seen

@SleepingStandingUp

The idea that if you say you love someone it mean's your after sex is of course wrong. I say it to my family.

Due to paucity of language, I wouldn't say I love my friends because they mean less to me than family and I love my family.

I'm middle 50's and I tell my friends who are girls/ladies that I love them.

Perhaps your mother has difficulty distinguishing between love and sex?

iterativeConstruct fair enough, just curious