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AIBU?

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Protest piss

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Hamsterdam · 26/04/2018 21:42

Another thread has got me thinking about something, that I didn't think much of at the time but now I'm wondering if it might be more sinister.
I went away with a man for the weekend. One afternoon we were in a bar and there was a mix up with the bill, language/currency/cultural issues and the bar man was pretty rude. When we left my date said he should have done a protest piss to get back for the rude service.
I thought it was an over reaction, these things happen don't take it personally but he mentioned again a little while later so I told him that and he dropped it.
He didn't actually do it and I forgot about it, we had a nice time together but now I think maybe it's saying something really not very nice about him and not sure if I should see him again. I hate the thought that it's something he might actually do rather than just think about.

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ShweShwe · 26/04/2018 22:15

Is it a full moon tonight or something?

Sadly not - so the conclusion must be that there's more sick fucks in the world than I realised.

Prestonsflowers · 26/04/2018 22:17

Was the thread that got you thinking the one about a boyfriend pooing in her living room?

HollowTalk · 26/04/2018 22:18

Jesus. So this is a grown man who'd mess up a toilet as a punishment? And you're wondering whether you should keep on seeing him?

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Hamsterdam · 26/04/2018 22:22

Thread was about the plumber leaving a mess in the toilet.
He didn't do it he said he wished he had I told him to chill out and we moved on. Now I've thought about it after being reminded I won't be seeing him again.

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TemptressofWaikiki · 26/04/2018 22:23

Too sensitive...?! That would not be my choice of words for a rank, disgusting shitgibbons who talks about wanting to piss all over the place.

HoHoHoHo · 26/04/2018 22:25

Surely it was a joke in poor taste rather than something he thought was a good idea ...

AnitaLovesVictor · 26/04/2018 22:25

I think it's a thing.

My dsis's boyfriend came on holiday with us, and didn't like the place we were at - and pissed in the sauna. Gross. Beyond gross. She's dumped him now.

Plus, wasn't there a guy on big brother, years ago, who jumped over the wall to escape, but pissed in the kitchen bin first.

Dump him OP.

speakout · 26/04/2018 22:26

I am gobsmacked.

Cliveybaby · 26/04/2018 22:28

@Nothisispatrick same here - that's what I thought too... we call it a protest wee though!

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Hamsterdam · 26/04/2018 22:31

I'm almost certain he wasn't joking but I don't know him well so could be wrong. The fact he thought it at all especially after something so minor is what bothers me.
My mind is made up, I wasn't sure anyway but I'm certain now I won't be seeing him again.

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WeirdyMcBeardy · 26/04/2018 22:34

Yes there is certainly a lot of toilet related posting tonight. Very bizarre.

MLMsuperfan · 26/04/2018 22:43

I've heard of a dirty protest but this is new.

donquixotedelamancha · 26/04/2018 22:58

When we left my date said he should have done a protest piss to get back for the rude service.

Yes he is very charming

I think we have a very different threshold for 'charming'.

Eveforever · 26/04/2018 22:59

A protest piss sounds utterly vile and disgusting. Likewise your date sounds utterly vile and disgusting.

donquixotedelamancha · 26/04/2018 23:05

My mind is made up, I wasn't sure anyway but I'm certain now I won't be seeing him again.

Well I hope you are all proud MN? Once again you are encouraging some vulnerable OP to leave a perfectly reasonable relationship over petty nonsense. I mean, who doesn't occasionally threaten to piss themselves when they don't get their own way?

Notcontent · 26/04/2018 23:22

It is possible that he was only joking or saying whatever popped into his head to try to impress/amuse you!!!

Jux · 27/04/2018 01:48

You could just ask him in a non-pejorative way; if you make it casual or somehow make him think that you think it would be a funny thing but slightly shocking, then you've half a chance he'll tell you the truth.

Sometimes people say things just because it's vaguely amusing/shocking.

ferntwist · 27/04/2018 08:15

Gross. It would be some badly paid cleaning lady who would have to clean up after him anyway, not the barman. Never see him again. Toxic masculinity.

Coralcolouredchrome · 27/04/2018 08:52

Making a mess in the toilet, to get back for the bad service So should I take it personally every time my OH misses the pan.

bettytaghetti · 27/04/2018 09:01

The thread the OP is talking about is this one

Aibu to not want this person back in my house?http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am iibeingunreasonable/3232404-aibu-to-not-want-this-person-back-in-my-house

Someone posted a link on this thread to another forum where people openly boasted about doing this sort of thing. Absolutely vile and I'm sure in days gone by they would have been locked up for being so deranged.

I would have serious concerns about this guy, OP.

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Hamsterdam · 27/04/2018 11:06

Maybe he did say it just to shock or be amusing. I like I said I don't know him well so hard to tell. He has said strange/silly things before and admitted he tries hard to be funny to impress me.
It was the fact he was so put out by the service that bothered me, I mean the guy was pretty rude but he took it really personally when from where I was it just seemed like a language/cultural thing. That's what put me off, the comment didn't really register until I read the link to that other forum on the other thread and realised it's a thing.
Anyway can't be bothered to deal with a fragile male ego.

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