AIBU to keep reacting over this?

[sensitivesnowflake]

Hi guys!

Newbie here. Please be gentle!

I wrote a really long post and then for some reason it didn’t save so I’ve had to start again! Will try to keep it to the point.

Me. I’m a good person. Sensible. Bit boring. Happily married with 3 yo DD. I have genital herpes. I didn’t sleep around. I was just unfortunate to pick it up in my late teens. I’m now in my 30s. It’s so much more common than you may imagine.

Begged and pleaded with several obstetricians to perform a c section. I eventually got it. My anxiety was so high at the time around transmission I was frantic. The chances of transmission are 1% and almost 100% of those people don’t know they have it so are unable to take preventative measures. Anyway fast forward to now....

Everytime my DD get a red dot or viral rash or pimple, I freak out. She was recently poorly with I think the norovirus. Poor poppet was so sick she had nothing left to bring up.
Came out in a viral rash everywhere and it slowly faded. Around this time, a single tiny half a pea sized red patch appears on her vagina. It’s been here almost over a week now. It’s currenlty faded but on real close inspection, it’s a tad scaly? I’m freaking out big time. It doesn’t bother her at all. I’ve spoken to herpes experts who assure me that it’s impossible to transmit. The only way it can be transmitted is sexually.

I’ve used metanium for days and it’s not going. It’s not angry or real red. It’s just there a small scaly pink tiny patch.

AIBU to freak everytime something like this happens?
Has anyone experienced the small patch thing? Is this normal?

For what it’s worth, the virus doesn’t bother me or my everyday life and relationships ship with my husband. I don’t even think about it.

Thanks guys!

OP hugs to you. As far as I know there is only really a risk of passing genital herpes to your baby during labour if it’s your first outbreak. The virus gets weaker over the years. There could be a slim possibility if you’d had a virulent outbreak at the time of the birth but if you didn’t it’s pretty much unheard of.

Thanks ferntwist

Have a read of this link : www.nhs.uk/conditions/lichen-sclerosus/ does it sound like it fits? Nothing to do with herpes.

Might be worth a quick GP visit though.

Thanks ninja. I myself actually saw a specialist how deals with lichen. Turns out I just had dermatitis. All sorted nowZ

This seems to be getting marginally better although very very slowly. I’m no GP but am quite sure it’s not lichen.
Regarding GPs and herpes, without sounding awful, I know more than they do on the subject.

Any eczema in yours or your partners family. The word scaly made me think it -when I am having a flare up I occasionally wonder if I was a lizard in another life!

Just a heads up: don't post something like this in AIBU.

You've had some good replies though - phew.

Listen to the herpes experts. If they say it isn't herpes, it isn't herpes. So it's just a nappy rash kind of issue. I don't find metanium all it's hyped up to be. I much prefer sudocrem. It does sound like maybe a little patch of eczema or something though- maybe aveeno will help. Try bathing in plan water and cutting out fabric softener for a bit.

springydaff I thought the same as you! But since the OP isn't asking if it's happened to anyone else etc it's been taken as it should.

OP try switching creams for a bit, see if it works better. Metanium is great, but drying, I think bepanthen is more moisturising so it might work.

Might be better off in kid's health, OP.

It's night-time and all that, AIBU can be weird.

Just for reassurance OP my DD has managed to get to the grand old age of 10 and was born vaginally, it took me years but I am now finally convinced I haven't passed it on I totally get how you feel, the thought that you might pass anything harmful or unpleasant on to your child is awful enough but it makes it even worse that there is still such stigma attached to herpes.

Let the GP have a look at the patch just to be on the safe side but it doesn't sound like it's connected at all to me. You know yourself if it was an OB it would be bothering DD so try to be rational and logical about it in the meantime so you don't get too stressed. Sending and sympathy though, the freaking out does get less with time, honest