last year I had a really tough time with family. Two sisters especially have been quite horrible. Sis1 whom has told others she feels uncomfortable in my company, was negative and criticised me after a NY party we had and paid for and despite me thinking we were Close has seemed to have had plenty to say about me. She has 4 children.
Sis2, my twin has no children and again was critical about same party because she was angry they had to buy more wine when we footed the bill for everyone for lunch, dinner incl. 1btl of wine per person, accommodation, champagne and canapés in room and breakfast the following day! She then accused me of saying something I hadn’t and the informer said it wasn’t me but she wont have it. When I asked for an apology she text me saying, the only apology your getting is f* off!
So this is the back ground of the relationship, we live 150 miles away so have no face to face contact anyway. However, my sons 9th birthday last week and sis1 sent £10 in a card, I text to thanks . It was then her birthday and I sent a card which came with no acknowledgment. I just think the whole thinks a farce, and if it’s £10 in a card she sends me £20 for the year (2 kids) and I just send £40 back in the year (4kids) I just think it’s a joke and aibu to want to send it back?
Sis2 sent a £10 cheque but has spelt the surname incorrectly and so can’t be cashed anyway. I just find it insincere and want to send this cheque back as well pointing out correct surname. She obviously has no kids, not much money and I can see it been used against me at some point if I accept anything for my kids.
I have 4 other simblings whom all sent a card, no gift which I am fine with. I speak to all of these but I have always said I do not expect anything for my kids birthday or Christmas. None of them have much money anyway and it was silly where some years they would get something, others not. I just think don’t bother at all. Up to now I have sent all my siblings children gift for Christmas and new year. ( an outfit or gift card or pamper gift)
What would you do? i have tried to be kind to them over the years but feel there is something so insincere and farcical about the whole thing.