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Am I overreacting? Reality vs BPD.

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FrancisUnderwood · 25/04/2018 23:50

In my front garden there is a manhole cover, it looks like it is something to do with a telephone provider, I assume it is a service hatch for the street, no other house has one.

Over time, the cover has become loose and now moves away, is very heavy and the hole beneath is a foot or so deep.

It has rain water in now, a few inches, and what look like electric/phone cables. I want to call the provider to come and maintain it properly, my DF says I'm 'just like my mother' and that he'll 'scoop the water out with a shovel' and that I'm paranoid and need to stop stressing out.
I say I don't want him rooting about in a flooded electrical supply box with a shovel...

I have recently been diagnosed with BPD which has shook my world and made me question every reaction I've ever had to anything. Am I overreacting by wanting it to be properly dealt with? My Mum HAS had a long history of poor mental health, OCD and anxieties.
His criticism hurts, I've tried very hard not to be like that, I'm acutely aware of those behaviours.
Here are the pics, am I overreacting??

Am I overreacting? Reality vs BPD.
Am I overreacting? Reality vs BPD.
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FrancisUnderwood · 25/04/2018 23:53

For info, I have positioned the cover back over it properly now, so nothing can get in. We're at the end of a cul de sac.

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TolchockLovelyInTheLitso · 25/04/2018 23:57

YANBU. If it's keeping you awake at night that might be an overreaction but a quick call to BT Openreach or whoever so they can sort it out is perfectly sensible. You DH was a bit mean to say those things to you unless you are constantly fretting about everything.

FrancisUnderwood · 26/04/2018 00:03

I'm really not, that's the thing. If anything, I can be a bit lasseiz faire generally.

That said, since my diagnosis I realise my own meter of 'reasonable' might have been off centre too.

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Stompythedinosaur · 26/04/2018 00:18

You are being sensible and you df sounds mean!

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