To expect dp to watch his child for 10mins on his day off?

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He has spent the morning, tidying, running erands while i have been out at toddler group (working, i'm a childminder) I came back to do lunch and he wanted to go and play snooker with his dad - fair enough but i said he would need to be back for 1.30 as 1 mindee leaves then and i have to take the other one home (dont usually have him on monday) and dd2 will still be in bed so i'd need him here to watch her while i nip out - hardlt worth getting dd2 up and dressed to ocme with me plus she would spend the rest of the afternoon grumpy and i have a client coming to interview at 4pm we also may be going to view our new house between 2-3pm.

He has thrown a major strop, stormed out but txt to say im a nasty selfish bitch and he'll be back for 1.30 so hasnt gone to snooker. I've said he can go out tonight if he likes.

AIBU??

He called you a bitch? Personally iwouldn'thave himinthehouse again.

ah sorry no i take that bit back just checked the msg, its says nasty selfish piece of work

No, he is.

He is definitely definitely being unreasonable. I do struggle to get DH to do his share at the weekend, and I would almost forgive your DP for thinking he could head off to snooker etc, but the text is way over the top on his part. He needs a good telling off.

why do you have to take mindee home?
what would you have done if dh was at work?
personally i would keep mindee a little bit longer and when dd wakes up take mindee home then
btw i would not have my dh talk to me like that so i dont think your being unreasonable

I would keep mindee longer & take them home when dd wakes up

My c/minder asks to keep ds til 2.30 on a Monday as I would be there to pick him up at 2pm but her kids are out of school @ 2pm & 2.30 suits her better for me to arrive

It's his day off though, surely a game of snooker with his dad could have been allowed

I dont usually have that particular mindee on a monday i only agreed to have him and take him because i thought dp would be here, i wasn't to know he would have a strop about it

We've made up now, we're on edge because we both really want to go and see our new house and HA are messing us about

Sods law dd2 woke up at 1.25 anyway and is now screaming her head off - might see if dp will take her out for half hour when client comes.

Think if my DH had texted me I was a nasty selfish piece of work he would come to realise JUST how nasty & selfish I could get. How old is he - 9?? If he can't look after his own child for 10 minutes there's something wrong - day off or not.

Ok now he has gone out to play snooker as we are not going to view our new house I did say I would prefer it if he stayed here but i wouldn't stop him going out if he wanted then he phoned and said he'll only be a couple of hours so will still spend the evening with me.

God...aren'tyou lucky...

I think he is being a pig, but then it must be a man thing as DP called to say he was going out after work with his friend to the pub.
I don't mind him going out but I would like more the 10 minuets notice, I had to go to the hospital to visit my mum today and I could have done with some help and a hug.

Sorry for hijack, Men prats the lot of um.