DH going away close to due date

[Cheeseandapple]

I'm 38 weeks pregnant with first baby and DH is planning a night away at the weekend. He'll be over 2.5 hours away visiting PIL. I have no family nearby & DM will be out if the country (otherwise she would come stay). AIBU to feel anxious that he's going away so close to DD and to feel sad that he's going away at all? Can't tell if I'm just really hormonal and need to chill or if it's legitimate.

Ps had midwife appointment yesterday and the baby's head is not engaged yet.

I went away, overseas, on my due date…. So I have some sympathy for your DH!

When you inevitably dont go into labour this weekend, which is sod's law, dont feel you need to apologise to him.

@MadeForThis yes! Exactly. He'll get over his sulk soon enough.

@Emma198 no! This makes it worse actually - he bought them a week or two ago. We agreed at the time that he wouldn't go but PIL assumed he would be going too and he just didn't correct them. PIL will be absolutely fine about him not going when he tells them and explains why.

Thank you everyone - you've all reiterated what I was feeling (including @NapQueen). Hopefully all sorted now.

Despite everyone saying first babies are late (a clear lie) mine came at 38 weeks as did lots of my friends. I would be furious. I’m glad for you he’s not going. Hopefully he’ll get over his sulk.

I had my first baby 5 months ago and no matter what everyone says about first labours lasting forever and baby's always turning up late - it's bollocks. Mine arrived at 35 weeks and once labour got going it was very quick and dirty. Absolutely no chance will my husband be allowed anywhere other than by my side for the trimester of my next pregnancy!

@Cheeseandapple he is def in the wrong. Tell him to put bottom lip away he's going to be a daddy soon. Good luck with everything. X

My first baby was late (as were the other two), but from first contraction to holding him, was only 3 hours.

I'm glad he's not going now, you don't need the worry.

I think you should let him go baby won't arrive my friends hubby was away at work for 2 weeks from 37 weeks to 39 she even rang his boss to ask if he could not go he still went and had me on emergency stand by.

My first was born at 38+2 weeks. My ex dp was actually supposed to be going away to do a few days work that same day. I told him to go as I was convinced the baby wouldn’t be coming anytime soon. He decided at the last minute not to go, just in case. Went into labour that evening and dd1 was born after 4 hours.

Ahhh I can understand why you're anxious about it but as it's your first baby it is more likely to be both late and a long labour so really unlikely he'll miss it. I had 6 other Nct friends and 6 other friends expecting at the same time as me and our of all of us only one gave birth before her due date. Also she was 2 hours away from the hospital when she first went into labour and had no trouble making it back in time. Good luck with everything.

Well... DH lived 2.5 hours away from me when I was pregnant with DD1, and was reliant on public transport. He still managed to be in the right place at the right time when she was born.

After about 38 weeks I did insist he kept his mobile phone on and turned up at all times, including during meetings at work, and that he answered if I called. He knew I would only call if he really needed to get home fast.

yaboo you purposely went over seas on your due date? By plane, boat or car?
Why do you have sympathy for the ops DH?

My exdp went to a party two hours from our home when I was 3 days from my due date
I never forgot that

It was all about him
He wanted to go so he did
never mind his pregnant partner and young daughter at home

Ds was due 2 weeks after dh +ils were going away to an event. Ds was 5 weeks early and dh didn't want to miss the early days so didn't go. Mil snubbed ds completely and we have been nc for over 3 years, she saw ds 3 times for less than 30 mins each. Fruit loop.