I understand it if it’s close friends, family or colleagues who you have repeatedly corrected, but some people seem to react really badly when it’s almost strangers.
I have a name with two traditional spellings and a few more “unique” spellings. Mine is one of the traditional spellings but people often get my name wrong on cards and emails, even good friends. When this happens, I notice. That’s it. I assume it’s because they don’t usually have cause to write my name and no, they don’t remember how I wrote it on their Christmas card 11 months previously.
I do try and check the spelling of names myself when it’s my turn, but it can be tricky. At my previous job, I occasionally had email traffic with three Beckys, except they weren’t, they were Becky, Becki, and Beccy. I didn’t interact with them face to face, I was typing emails under pressure at break times (teacher) and unless I was replying to an email that they had (unusually) signed, I’d just guess. Usually, like me they just used their auto default college sign-off, which of course was Rebecca Surname, Job Title, Department Luckily for me none of the Beckys took umbrage that I know. I similarly struggled to remember Suzie and Susie, both Susanne.
If there is one thing the Internet has taught us, it’s that people can’t spell for shite, so why do people take it so personally or get so very cross? Susie, a very nice woman, used to virtually foam at the mouth when she (quite often) got correspondence with the incorrect spelling, always on the basis that “He’s worked with me for 3 years and he doesn’t even know my fucking name,” - Well he does know your name but he never normally has to write it and rarely reads it, particularly the shortened version you use. I know people see it as disrespect but surely it is only disrespect in a tiny minority of cases?
Am I the only Rebecca/ Rebekah, Jane/Jayne, Lindsay/Lyndsay, Tania/ Tanya, Isabelle/Isobel that doesn’t get aerated by this?