Is this a stupid decision?

[TaytoAllDay]

Probably more of a WWYD, but to be honest I feel like it could be unreasonable.

I am working in a job that i am miserable coming to every single day, I cannot stand the girl I work with (she is sneaky and lies). Along with me not being able to click with anyone.

I just applied for a job that pays significantly less, but I think I would be much happier in that environment.

I'm just feeling awfully deflated at the moment and extremely emotional as I interviewed for my dream job yesterday and absolutely bottled it I got SO nervous (which has never happened to me in an interview before).

So is it unreasonable to take another job that pays less?

Please be gentle on the verge of tears today. I feel so stuck.

God no that's not a stupid question. Take a cut and be happier

Oh bless you OP.

If you can afford the pay reduction then I’d say go for it. Be happy.

Provided that you can afford it I don't see the problem.

As long as you can afford to take a pay cut then it’s absolutely fine!

You’ll work most of your adult life so you need to make sure it’s a job you can at least put up with but hopefully enjoy.

Sometimes if you have been in a shitty job it really knocks your confidence so taking a step back and building yourself up again is a very good idea!

If you have had your confidence knocked or are utterly desperate to get out of your job it might explain why you ‘fluffed’ the interview? Don’t worry, you’ll get another go at a later date I’m sure.

When will you get the results of your interview? Can you rbg them and say you performed badly on the day but your super keen and do a bit of damage limitation on the phone?

But yes take the cut and move jobs!

If you can afford it then yes do leave. Remember your next job does not have to be permanent and when you are happier you can apply for other jobs.

Absolutely take a cut. If you can pay your bills and get by then money isn't everything. Put your happiness first!

Oh and if you need some confidence, read Why you? By James Reed. I bottled my dream job interview and my MIL bought it for me and I read it back to back. I just aced the second interview at a job I want and I have a really good feeling.

Good luck!

As long as a pay cut won't leave you unable to cover your essential costs go for it. Work that gives you satisfaction and camraderie can be life enhancing.

I am winding down to retirement now but looking back over my working life my happiest period of employment wasn't one of the high flying, highly paid financial services sector jobs but a period of 4 years working part time in a call centre when DCs were very young. I didn't earn a lot but I was busy all the time, I had no added responsibilities, I left the job on the desk as I left and didn't think about it until I walked into the office again. I was working with much younger people in a very relaxed atmosphere and I laughed about 100 times per shift. It's not just about the money.

Thank you everyone for your kind & helpful responses. Have felt like breaking down so many times today, I keep beating myself up.

Yeh, my current job has absolutely knocked my confidence and it's really disheartening as I've never felt like this before in the workplace. And I've never got that nervous in an interview like that before.

It's so true money doesn't buy happiness at all, I honestly feel like I would be happier on a lower wage in a nicer environment and atmosphere.

Okay @DollyLlama I'll give that book a go! Sounds like a good idea, definitely need something to give me a boost - my work life is honestly the only part of my life bribing me down everything else is great .. DP &a friends/family/social life - never thought work would have such an intense role with regards to happiness. @loonoon that's good to know that you look back and the happier work environment is the one you look back on fondly.. food for thought there.ive already thought I'd be happier with the bigger wage & higher role but it just isn't panning out that way.

@atalune yes I think I'll give them a call at lunch, just to see - nervous though! To be honest though whenever I've been hired before I knew that day.

@foxysoxy I honestly think it's a mixture of both, confidence knocked and desperate to leave so I reckon that's why I fluffed it.

Going to make a cup of tea now and hopefully it will help relax me a little bit.

Thanks again everyone ♥️

Sorry @foxysoxy10

Bless You OP, it does sound like your confidence has been knocked. I had a job where I used to cry on my way to the train station, I was that much in dread of having to go in

I thought I was trapped there but I eventually managed to get a great job much nearer home and for more money!!

How badly do you think you fluffed the interview? what happened? It doesn't mean you don't have it because they didn't call same day. Sometimes I interview people over 2/3 days. Did they say when they would let you know?

Either way, life is too short to feel like this so take a lower paid job to build your confidence back up and take it from there.

Do it. If you can live on the lower wage, do it and don't give it another thought. You can reassess your career options at a later date.

@happypoobum yeh it's massively been knocked unfortunately, aw I'm so sorry to hear that you cried every day before work. Such a horrible feeling I completely identify with that! That's great though that you're happier now and not in that position anymore.

I just feel like I was so nervous I may have seemed like I was desperate to leave my job and it may have come across that way unintentionally. The interviewer was the managing director and extremely hard to read he gave nothing away.

I just gave them a call, and the lady said he was doing more interviews today and would give feedback later on. I feel that was a fob off though as he told me he had the last interview yesterday.

Yeh I'll take a lower paid one in a nicer environment as I need my confidence to build up again. I feel like your replies have given me some clarity

Feel a little bit better now

Do it. You need to, for your own mental well-being.

Many of us have been in a similar position before. I have. Twice. Both times a sideways move to another similar job with a different (nicer) employer was the only answer. I'd have taken a pay cut too if it had been necessary.

I think when you are in the situation you currently are in, feeling dreadful about each day very quickly becomes your "normal" setting. That's when you know that you need to get out of there.

Well done for ringing! That took guts.

It’s all done now, so feel good about doing what you could and wait and see.

Fingers crossed for you.

Thanks I appreciate that, I was so nervous plucking to the courage to call it took me a few minutes of pushing myself, but I felt better for it! @atalune

Thanks that's very true, I know I need to leave as it's almost like torture being there. Sorry to hear you've been in that position too, even twice @topseyt that isn't ideal but at least you're out of it now and in a more positive place