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AIBU?

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Overreacting? 8yr old looking up/ at ‘minecraft sex’ videos

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Frankfurt2017 · 23/04/2018 22:16

AIBU to ask teacher’s help/ advice? Would that’s be over reacting? Dereliction of duty? I just don’t want to get it wrong..We have discussed not looking up inappropriate things. But I was away for the weekend and have come home to find he has done it again. I want to ban all screens forever..

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ghostyslovesheets · 23/04/2018 22:17

parental controls ?

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 23/04/2018 22:21

Well ban the screens. If he can't be trusted to stay within the parameters and you can't set controls for it then he can't have access to it.

He's 8.

JustVent · 23/04/2018 22:24

I’ve had to ban the internet so many times because I can’t trust my kids. I give hem an inch and they take a mile.

The 11 year old has started being good again but they are strictly not allowed to watch videos (if they do that’s another 3 month internet ban).
I gave them so many chances and they always took the piss, so I have to be really harsh about it now.

It works but my youngest is 6 so i’ll go through it all again no doubt.

That’s with allll the parental controls you can get as well.

LovingLola · 23/04/2018 22:26

He's 8.
I would remove all access to the internet for him. Including tablets.

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Frankfurt2017 · 23/04/2018 22:29

Thanks for the replies...I will have another ‘talk’ in the morning - He was so apologetic last time...His class teacher is v experienced and she might have a good impact but I don’t want to humiliate him...minecraft sex 🙄

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name54321 · 23/04/2018 22:34

What's this got to do with his teacher?

Mine eldest is older than yours and he doesn't get to use the internet unless there's an adult in the room and we can see what he's doing. Plus he knows we can check the history (in case he tries to look at something when our back is turned).

LovingLola · 23/04/2018 22:38

He is too young to have unsupervised access to the internet. How is he managing to look up minecraft sex.
You don't seem to be taking it very seriously.

Upupupup · 23/04/2018 22:39

What is minecraft sex?

Notcontent · 23/04/2018 22:41

I am intrigued by Minecraft sex...
But like others, i have absolutely no idea why you would raise this with his teacher!?!?

Fruitcorner123 · 23/04/2018 22:44

This is nothing to do with the teacher. Take access to the internet away from him until he's a little older. If you are going to be away make sure other carers know.

Beamur · 23/04/2018 22:45

There are some Minecraft videos with quite adult content. You are right to be concerned that he could be viewing something inappropriate.
As 8 you are going to have to reduce and monitor his usage.

Mintychoc1 · 23/04/2018 22:45

On YouTube? Just block YouTube, it’s easy.

ShawshanksRedemption · 23/04/2018 22:46

I'm guessing you;re not confident in dealing with this yourself hence referring to the teacher? You are the parent, you have very right to keep your child safe and bring them up well, and so what your 8yr old is doing is not OK. You know that, you just need to enforce it.

How did you enforce it last time? Did it work? If you haven't already, please look at how you can improve your parental controls via your internet supplier (e.g. safe search on Sky www.sky.com/help/articles/sky-broadband-shield-explained).

Whitegrenache · 23/04/2018 22:51

My 8 year old did this aged 8
Googled " boys and girls having sex"
You can imagine what google
came up with
We had a very long chat and he was soooooo embarrassed
Then I had a tough jolt into the reality of kids and internet parental control

I hope it was natural curiosity

TwoBlueFish · 23/04/2018 22:53

Have you asked him why he wants to look it up? Does he know what sex is? Are other kids telling him about it? Does he know why it’s inappropriate? Once you’ve had a talk I would remove screens for a period of time and then only allow supervised access. Then revisit parental controls and ensure that you are restricting adult content on you tube. I don’t think it’s a teachers job unless there are safeguarding concerns.

Nousernameforme · 23/04/2018 22:57

I think I would mention it to the teacher just in case it's something going round the playground. I would want then to be aware.

Parent controls in place a screen ban and explain that he isn't mature enough to be looking at the things he is searching for.

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Frankfurt2017 · 23/04/2018 23:53

Thanks very much for input - it’s much appreciated..I suppose I’m just a little sad/ worried that I have had to revisit this again so soon (last time was Xmas when he spent time with grandparents who don’t really appreciate internet danger) I know curiosity is natural but it just feels so early for the whole world of online smut to ambush him...

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optimuss · 24/04/2018 01:19

i would think that minecraft sex is probably a video definitely not aimed at his age group but has made its way down to playground chat! just tighten up parental controls and explain to him that he is too young for it

JustVent · 24/04/2018 06:41

I’m also unsure why you would tell the teacher? If you really feel you have to do that, please don’t do so in front of him.

Storm4star · 24/04/2018 06:49

My kids were little around the time home internet became more popular (this was about 20 years ago). I remember getting our first computer and helping them look up things they liked. I googled “action man” for my son, with both kids sitting beside me. Cue me jumping up and covering the screen in a panic! 🤣🤣 I learnt quick! I would hate to have to deal with it now but I would imagine there are some very good parental control things out there.

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