To be happy with being a miserable old cow???

[LaurieF]

There it Is! I'm a grumpy bitch and I know it.
For context I work in an environment where most of the employees are very young and there is a very social culture.
I don't want to go out on the piss on a weeknight, I have 2 kids to get to bed! I have even been told in a meeting that my lack of involvement in social events has been noticed and I should try get involved more. I don't want to! I want to go home, put my little ones to bed, have a hot bath and relax in front of the tv with a glass of wine in my dressing gown.... AIBU to want to be a hermit and only socialise when I'm in the mood for it?

Sounds perfect. We've got our staff xmas do next Tuesday (!). Night out on the lash with the same people I spend all day with AND the boss?

Nah, yer alright thanks.

It 's fine!

Not your job to please other people!

Your midweek evening plans sound perfect to me. Definitely NBU.

@lovelysouffle Xmas do??? I'm counting down to Xmas 2018 lol! Not sure I fancy a turkey dinner in April though

YANBU. Your free time is yours, not your employers. It's not being miserable to -need- want to be at home in the evening with your family.

If you have been told officially in a meeting that your lack of involvement in personal time social events has been "noted" then you need to start keeping a record of those discussions to protect yourself.

Jesus wept, it's a job, not a social club! I never could stand socialising outside of work. I saw these people 40 hours a week, I don't flapping want to live with them, do I?

I'm with you!

I agree, I've been invited to a party on Saturday, I know no-one who will be there, so I'm not going! I'm staying at home with a bottle etc.

I have even been told in a meeting that my lack of involvement in social events has been noticed and I should try get involved more.

Your workplace is discriminating against employees who don't want to or cant do unpaid overtime. I'm sick of people claiming women 'choose to work shorter hours', when this is the reality.

I don't think it helps that the 2 of us in my dept are a small department within a bigger area. The other person in my dept is very much a social butterfly, knows everyone, hugs on their way into work etc. I think I am normal (although I don't do physical contact lol) but in comparison I look like a dour old maid!

I’m with you.

My job involves meeting, chatting to and ‘socialising’ with up to 10 different people each day, I feel like by the evening I’m all out of words, I barely even want to talk to my DH and DC some nights.

I need my free time to recharge, I can’t think of anything worse than being expected to go on a work night out.