SM dating with kids

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Single mum, no involvement for father.
Very very limited help in terms of family/friends.
DS is 1 & goes to nursery 2 afternoons a week.

Started talking to someone new who I have met several times.
He works all week with 0 chance of meeting up until the weekends.

How do I make this work with minimal/0 childcare options??

Not sure, you could try calling each other when free like Skype for now and see if you click and if there is any hope?

There is definitely a connection/spark. I didn't think I'd feel like this about anyone after my ex but I genuinely get excited when I see his name pop up on my phone.

It's just hard as I don't get any time off except during the week when he's busy

Can you use a babysitter? Through a website/word of mouth/FB? Or perhaps see if any of the other nursery mums are interested in a reciprocal arrangement, where you help each other out with babysitting?

How would it work in terms of him getting used to them??

Does he know about them? I would go on a few dates first in person just you and him and find as much out about him online just to make sure he hasn't committed a crime in the past and then you could all meet up in public somewhere for the day

Use a babysitter

Could you have him over at yours for dinner after your DS is in bed?

could they come round once your ds is in bed? Or you just use them a few times and he will get used to them ...

If it gets more serious can the new bloke come over once your little one is in bed

Either have him over when your kids are asleep or get a babysitter.

I've searched him online, I've asked as much as I can about his past to gauge if there is anything I need to be worried about. So far so good!

I guess it would be a lot of him coming round & us staying in a lot unless I can source a babysitter (I don't speak to any other mums that I could swap childcare with).

He lives a 2 hour drive away so "popping" over isn't an option.

I understand you might be getting on well but a 2 hour drive is a bit far especially when you both are struggling to get time together, could you see it working long term, just don’t want you to get hopes up and then be disappointed if the distance becomes an issue, good luck with it all!