To have a third baby?

[Helpme1980]

AIBU to have a third baby?
I had gestational diabetes and obstetric cholestasis in both my pregnancies. I also had SPD!

In my second pregnancy everything was diet controlled and I did lose a lot of weight.

My youngest is now 3.5. I’ve just returned to work after 4 years as a SAHM.

Both my babies were in special care.

I had it tough after my first nearly died I got PND.

After all of the above including two atrocious emergency sections and failed Care for me afterwards.

I want another baby?! It would mean mat leave from a new job. It would mean possible GD and OC again? Would I be diabetes free at the end of a third pregnancy?!

After reading all of above I know I shouldn’t but AIbU?! Help me!

PS I’m the fittest I’ve ever been I’m still overweight but I’m exercising 3 times a week cardio and weights and watching my diet.

Help!

Sympathy crap genes with you, OP - it's shit isn't it? I try to view it as sort of a food intolerance - it's not medically accurate, but it makes sense mentally/emotionally. Carbs are simply not something I can tolerate very well.

Why oh why aren't we intolerant to cabbage and sprouts instead of all the tasty things though?!

I wouldn't. So long as I have dependents, I want to keep myself fit and healthy for them. The risk is not all yours to take. You also have to consider the others you brought into the world.

In those circumstances I would say absolutely not put your existing children first and enjoy them.

I am 37 now and have that urge every day for maybe a third but I know it is my biology telling me that. what happens if you have dc3 and want 4? How long do you keep going?

It must be biology. It all makes sense.

Yes crap genes! I know another pregnancy would be risky. More than risky. Just need to be healthy rightfully so for the children I have that I am responsible for - it should be about being as healthy as possible for them:

Thank you for getting my brain in check. I want another baby so much but it really isn’t the right thing to do.

If I were you I wouldn't. You have just got your career back and havibg three does take its toll - I have 4 and every pregnancy was more demanding physically without your added complications. I would not rock the boat. I've just gone back to work after my 4 and I wouldn't consider going back to the newborn stage (lovely as it is).

I know it’s not very mumsnetty? But thank you for your advice and words of wisdom. Just got to stop this aching empty feeling (called biology)!

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