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AIBU?

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Original poster

Aibu or is my dh being stupid. <slightly light hearted>

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biscuitraider · 22/04/2018 15:06

Or being deliberately awkward.....I was just reminding dh that i was going away for one night in a fortnight. This is how i worded it. "Just reminding you i'm going away two weeks yesterday" Would you all understand what i meant by that? Dh was saying, "but what day"? I replied "two weeks yesterday".
Now since "yesterday" was a saturday i would have thought it was obvious.

Another pathetic argument then ensued to which he said, "why didn't you just say saturday" to which i relied "well if i did you wouldn't have known which saturday i meant" . He nsists he was right, i insist i was.

So what do you all think, and what stupid things have caused you to argue with partners.

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TidyDancer · 22/04/2018 15:09

I would've said 'a week on Saturday' personally but I would've understood what you meant.

AlmostAJillSandwich · 22/04/2018 15:11

When he asked what day after you said "2 weeks yesterday" it was obvious you would mean the saturday 2 weeks from now, so it was unreasonable of you to just repeat what you'd already said when it clearly had confused him, instead of just saying saturday at that point. It is a really awkward phrase you chose and honestly, it comes across you being awkward for the sake of it to just repeat what it seems wasn't clear to him, no wonder he got frustrated and annoyed, you probably made him feel stupid.

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biscuitraider · 22/04/2018 15:12

I wish i had said that tidy but yes, you'd have thought he'd have understood. I know i would have.

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LineyHasntLeftTheBuilding · 22/04/2018 15:15

I'd have said 'in 13 days' to clarify. I am surrounded by shipless fools.

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biscuitraider · 22/04/2018 15:15

I know i sounded like i was being awkward, it was just the way he said 'what day". impatient and bad tempered like.

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steff13 · 22/04/2018 15:21

I would have understood what you meant, but your wording was a bit awkward.

Aprilmightbemynewname · 22/04/2018 15:23

I wouldn't have said fortnight - bloody sick of hearing about that word in this bloody house!! (x box game of very similar name-anyone feel my pain??)
I prob would have said the date tbh.

sentMai · 22/04/2018 15:26

I think your heads need banging together.

When he asked for clarification, you displayed a basic sign of idiocy - the same input but expecting a different result.

JobHunting4 · 22/04/2018 15:27

I knew what you meant. My DH is weird with this. Results in stupid conversations to clarify who means what

keepthepeace · 22/04/2018 15:43

We have a calendar and the trip would be marked o there. Too many "I already told you" happened before then. Plus, a typical response from DH when I asked him when he was going away would be "the 4th, I mean 9th, 8th, 17th, it's the 17th!"

I have NO IDEA why he is like this. MIL is also.

JennyHolzersGhost · 22/04/2018 15:44

I’d have said the Saturday after next.

GreenTulips · 22/04/2018 15:49

This Saturday woruld be a week
Next Saturday is two weeks
So the Saturday after Next is 3 weeks!

OP the 'yesterday' part would have given the day as a Saturday - he was being annoying

MsHomeSlice · 22/04/2018 15:51

see dh does this...just answer the ACTUAL bloody question, if I want a riddle I will work one out, but if I ask

"Which lane do I need, this one, or the outside one?" referring to a busy, many optioned roundabout
He won't just answer, "either" or answer the goddammed question he'll say "the M80"
Equally, he is as difficult taking direction, but that's probably a subject for another time.

it's
not
fucking
helpful!

So really I am with your dh
away in a fortnight
two weeks yesterday
All could have been solved by "the saturday."

Ginkypig · 22/04/2018 15:54

It annoys me though when someone says something to which I ask a clarification question (like what day) and they just repeat the same thing.

If Iv not understood the first time I'm unlikely to understand the same thing repeated.

jaseyraex · 22/04/2018 15:55

Both of you were being stupid. I would have understood what you meant but also wouldn't have repeated what you said the first time as your DH clearly didn't get it.

My DH is the same with this stuff though. If he asks what day something is and I say oh next Tuesday, he then insists on going "yeah but what date is that", even though he asked for day. It's why everything now gets written on the calendar!

missmorleyme · 22/04/2018 15:57

Usually to avoid confusion like this id say 'not Saturday coming up but the next one i am...'

happytobemrsg · 22/04/2018 15:59

I would have said "not next Saturday, the Saturday after"

TroysMammy · 22/04/2018 16:00

So many different ways of saying it. No wonder people find English a difficult language to learn.

VladmirsPoutine · 22/04/2018 16:04

Both of you are being unreasonable but you're probably 80% more..

VladmirsPoutine · 22/04/2018 16:09

Just noticed you're an apologist for racists. Ignore my comment. I'm out of this thread. Good luck to your DH but then again who knows.

Walkingdeadfangirl · 22/04/2018 16:21

Using both past and future time references is most definitely confusing. And repeating it is deliberately confusing. Its like using a double negative, you dont know if someone is referring to the opposite or the opposite of the opposite. Confused

I would have just said the 5th of May.

TantricTwist · 22/04/2018 16:30

'Two weeks yesterday'. What kind of nonsense is that, if someone said thatto me I'd ask them to clarify.

Totally with your DH on this one.

Ginkypig · 22/04/2018 16:31

Vladmirspoutine have I missed something?

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biscuitraider · 22/04/2018 16:39

What the hell you on about vladmirs,what an extremely odd comment.

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biscuitraider · 22/04/2018 16:48

Yes I realise there were better ways of saying it, but it was an unprepared comment, as is the way, it was just a way of getting the words out quickly, if someone had said it to me I'd have known what they meant, I wouldn't have jumped down their throat.

A light hearted thread but as usual a few ready with nasty comments. "Good luck to your dh" really vladmirs? ....How unbelievably rude and uncalled for.

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